last week i read symposium by plato. in that there is a conversation between diotima and socrates on the nature of eros and erotics. diotima taught socrtes about erotics. she started by stating the birth of eros. eros is the son of poros (resource) and penia ( poverty). because of this generation eros is poor and needy ( from mother penia) and he traps the beautiful and good ( from father poros). eros is not beautiful at all. he is a hunter, philosopher, magician, druggist and sophist. this is the mythological description of eros.
now how eros affects mind? eros raises the desire of beautiful in men. today in the world everybody is looking for beauty of some sort. nobody is looking for uglyness. people fight for a beautiful life, a beautiful woman etc. so eros is very essence of people irrespective of age, race, gender etc.
now the question why is this desire for beauty? the answer is that man wants to give birth in beauty. why? because only by giving birth a man can preserve his features. how? men's physical beauty will wane. but some of this physical beauty passed on to his offspring. thats how a man can preserve his physical features through generation.
now how one can learn erotics? first one must saw beautiful bodies. then he adores at least one body. he first love the beauty in flesh. then he must understand the beauty in soul/mind and consider it more honorable than beauty in flesh. later he will seek beauty in everything: science, arts, commerce etc. untill he finds an eternal beauty: beauty that never wanes nor born : full beauty. this is the pinnacle of erotics. in this pinnacle one should know what beauty itself is. then he will see beauty everywhere. this is the life worth living.
this is what diotima taught socrates about erotics. it is quite different from how the word erotics is used today. i think this is the real meaning of erotics with all its splendor.