We do not choose who we become in life (Birth to death). This is impossible because making a choise on who to become, or who we want to be, is impossible without a personality to begin with. And when you have developed a personality, it is a result of outside events affecting you, which you do not hold power over.
Agree? If not say why, if you do agree keep reading.
In other words, if every event that formed our personality was made into pieces of domino, then going back in time - tipping over the first domino - would result in the same end result.
If we do not choose who to become, then our personality is the result of an unwilled process. Therefore our personality is a REACTION and not an ACTION.
Agree still?
People like to point out the "uncertainity principle" (spelling?) i believe in physics there are random factors, that in an alternate universe would create a buttefly effect with a different result. However, with my reasoning this doesent change the fact that whatever personality emerges - is a blank slate that unwillingly gets manipulated my its surroundings and formes into a personality that is still just a reaction.
I believe for free will to exist, the first action must be taken by the mind, but you cant will anything without a personality! The mind you possess, YES YOU, is not something you chose before you were born.
You didnt choose who to be before you were born, because you didnt have a personality to make a choise. Therefore, again, are we "constructs"
Im not arguing that life isnt "real", our feelings are real. I just dont think we were ever able to truly manipulate our path.
So i ask you, is my reasoning flawed or correct in your eyes. What are your thoughts? I know discussing free will vs determinism is beating a dead horse here, but i felt this way to look at it was... different.