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    I'm 27 but I feel much older. I've studied History, Religion, German, Anthropology, Politics, Culture and Biology. I'm not an expert in any specific subject and have a wide array of interests and hobbies (birdwatching, powerlifting, singing, playing basketball,etc.). I just get bored with things so easily now. I feel I've already explored all of my interests to the extent I could ever possibly want to (I've been studying on my own for 7-8 years and I've taken courses in Mammalogy,European History, History of the South, Vertebrate Zoology, Andean Civilizations, Ornithology, Primatology, Microbiology, etc and read several books on these subjects and other subjects on my own such as Native American Hisory/Religion, Ancient Egypt and local history of NC and WV)...I feel that I have no friends and know that even if I choose to make friends, they will likely know nothing of science and history and annoy me...I feel that having friends is very important but my arrogant disposition and anxiety disorder won't allow me to maintain long-term relationships...I feel sometimes that life is ultimately meaningless and that there is no point in trying to accomplish anything in life as we all die anyway in the end...even if I could find a cure for AIDS or cancer, it would only be a temporary respite before one's ultimate and inevitable demise...I've always had trouble coping with the concept of death and I get nervous when I hear sirens or read of people who have recently died...I have palpitations and feel cold at times...my muscles sometimes twitch involuntarily...I'm on meds and it doesn't help much...what the hell is wrong with me?


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    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler View Post
    I'm 27 but I feel much older. I've studied History, Religion, German, Anthropology, Politics, Culture and Biology. I'm not an expert in any specific subject and have a wide array of interests and hobbies (birdwatching, powerlifting, singing, playing basketball,etc.). I just get bored with things so easily now. I feel I've already explored all of my interests to the extent I could ever possibly want to (I've been studying on my own for 7-8 years and I've taken courses in Mammalogy,European History, History of the South, Vertebrate Zoology, Andean Civilizations, Ornithology, Primatology, Microbiology, etc and read several books on these subjects and other subjects on my own such as Native American Hisory/Religion, Ancient Egypt and local history of NC and WV)...I feel that I have no friends and know that even if I choose to make friends, they will likely know nothing of science and history and annoy me...I feel that having friends is very important but my arrogant disposition and anxiety disorder won't allow me to maintain long-term relationships...I feel sometimes that life is ultimately meaningless and that there is no point in trying to accomplish anything in life as we all die anyway in the end...even if I could find a cure for AIDS or cancer, it would only be a temporary respite before one's ultimate and inevitable demise...I've always had trouble coping with the concept of death and I get nervous when I hear sirens or read of people who have recently died...I have palpitations and feel cold at times...my muscles sometimes twitch involuntarily...I'm on meds and it doesn't help much...what the hell is wrong with me?
    You are having mental health problems - does this make you any less of a human being ? Accept it as who you are, seek the professional help you need, and move on from there.
    In the end, when all is said and done, we are being remembered not for who we were, but for our legacy, for what we leave behind, for the impact we have had on other people's lives, and on the larger world. Always remember that. Do what you can while you are here.


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    Maybe a discussion about History/Religion/German/Anthropology/Politics/Culture or Biology would make you happy for a week? You just bored/alone that's all...
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    Hmm, i can hear a lot of myself in there. I'm also 27, and people think i'm annoying for thinking to know things better sometimes. I am well aware though i don't know it better always. Still, you are looking for purpose in life. As there is an intended goal we are all going for at the end. Well sorry, there is no ultimate goal. If there was something closely to something ultimate, then to have fun would be it. You are bored indeed for lack of proper stimulation. I try to play games at times. Did you try chess, and try to be very good at it?

    Though, in this time and age, everyone is alone. The distance created by technology gives some people less for a need to find other people, what makes others lonely for having nobody to be there for them.

    Did you try:
    - Pets, like dog, cat, bird, ants, or whatever.
    - Reading books.
    - Going to a bar, getting drunk, and fooling around.

    Really, the last one can be a lifesaver, or ender, it's the way you look at it. When i drink, i tend to think less about things, and i don't get ashamed for doing stupid things. As long as you keep your wits with you, it's going to be fun. Just buy an above average looking girl a drink, ask her name, and tell her you know ornithology. She'll want to know about it, and then say, "It's a clever way of describing birds. But not pretty birds like you...".

    Hmm. I know it's a science forum, but a little advice the other way can be nice, right? As i enjoy helping people .
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    Growing up, i marveled at star-trek's science, and ignored the perfect society. Now, i try to ignore their science, and marvel at the society.

    Imagine, being able to create matter out of thin air, and not coming up with using drones for boarding hostile ships. Or using drones to defend your own ship. Heck, using drones to block energy attacks, counterattack or for surveillance. Unless, of course, they are nano-machines in your blood, which is a billion times more complex..
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    ...I feel that having friends is very important but my arrogant disposition and anxiety disorder won't allow me to maintain long-term relationships...
    I can understand that an anxiety disorder might make things difficult. But I'm not sure what you mean by an "arrogant disposition".

    Does it mean that you "don't suffer fools gladly" to your way of thinking, but it comes across as ill-mannered and graceless to the people you deal with? Or are you inclined to be dismissive or scornful of others' contributions to conversations and discussions?

    Either way, you just have to make up your mind about what you want. The annoying Dr Phil has one saying that I think is helpful to many people.

    " Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? " (He tends to use this more in dispute resolution, but it's not bad for a more general approach.)

    If friendships and more intimate relationships matter to you at all, put good manners, restraint and tolerance or patience as a higher priority in your dealings with others for a week or two ( a month or more would be good if you can manage it) and see how you get on. If you don't like Dr Phil's folksy sayings, try my granny's favourite. "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."
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    maybe todays' world are like that... disconnected (Zwolver said same thing: tech create a distance between people). I also notice this theme appearing in old dystopian movie too, like Blade Runner and Brazil: where future is lonely place where city are dark and loomy and depressing amids technological bewilderment. -It might be real!
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    What's you favorite movie?
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    Thanks, I appreciate the comments. @icewendigo...I enjoy several movies...Dumb and Dumber, Minority Report, Tombstone,etc... I also enjoy documentaries.
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    You are having mental health problems - does this make you any less of a human being ? Accept it as who you are, seek the professional help you need, and move on from there.
    Well I do understand it makes me human. The problem is that I take meds but besides keeping extreme anxiety attacks at bay it does little. I still feel nervous and depressed half the time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler View Post
    You are having mental health problems - does this make you any less of a human being ? Accept it as who you are, seek the professional help you need, and move on from there.
    Well I do understand it makes me human. The problem is that I take meds but besides keeping extreme anxiety attacks at bay it does little. I still feel nervous and depressed half the time.
    This might be a sign that you have been put on the wrong medication or the wrong dosage. Perhaps you should discuss this with your doctor.
    I take it you have had a full physical, and any underlying medical conditions have been ruled out ?
    Maybe it is time to make a positive change in your life. Find a new job. Move somewhere else. Take up a new hobby. Get involved in a sports club, start volunteering etc etc etc. Sometimes a fresh start can work wonders.
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    Medicines are not perfect. If you expect to much of them, they will most likely dissapoint you. Especially mental drugs, as the mind is still something special. I don't think someones personality can be effected (in a good way) by drugs. You will have to do that by yourself.
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    Growing up, i marveled at star-trek's science, and ignored the perfect society. Now, i try to ignore their science, and marvel at the society.

    Imagine, being able to create matter out of thin air, and not coming up with using drones for boarding hostile ships. Or using drones to defend your own ship. Heck, using drones to block energy attacks, counterattack or for surveillance. Unless, of course, they are nano-machines in your blood, which is a billion times more complex..
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    What you are saying gottspieler reminds me a little of myself. I also feel I know many things, mostly because of my age, ( 78 ), have, over the years involved myself in Knowledge for Knowledges sake, and have then ask myself why I do this. It's a form of selective isolation. Why? Well, there are possibly two or three main reasons for this. Firstly, have we got an Inferiority Complex. If so, were we born with it, or were we conditioned by the invironment of our early Life? Second possibility, is it what we desire, not inviting people to be too close. If we embrace people will they rob us of something? Out Time, perhaps? our independance? our freedom to be exactly who we are? And one more, no point to aim oneself at? No Goal set for achievement? Where is our self satisfaction? What massages us and gives a feeling good situation? None of these.? Don't despair. I don't fight my lack of satisfying social-a-bility any more. I fought myself for 77 years, but I've finally given up. Still, I now find pleasure trying to be of help, even from a distance like this, using this medium. And I feel a kind of friendship with my fellow Forum Members. Your acquired knowledge may be your path forward, put it to some use, don't waste it. You feel something, anger, frustration, self pity, then bloody well say it out loud, today, everyday, if people consider you to be a nutter, then you will get more respect, and have lots of friends. westwind.
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    Thanks. I wish you well. I hope that you weren't (and aren't currently) too socially isolated Mr. Westwind. You deserve friendship and happiness... as we all do.
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    Firstly, have we got an Inferiority Complex?
    I do...and the funny thing about it is it comes off as the opposite because I try so hard to be proud of myself and show others that I'm worthy of their attention. People find me egotistical and think I have something of a superiority complex because I tend to focus on the issues in life that interest me and don't feel that I have time to waste hearing about the weather or a recent play a friend saw (I don't like small talk).

    I spend time in my head thinking about what I'm going to say in response to people when they are speaking. I get extremely anxious when I can't think of anything bright or witty to say and think people will see me as a fool. I hear very little of what others say. Sometimes it is because they are speaking of a subject I know nothing about and it frustrates me because I'm used to knowing answers and don't want them to have "the upper hand". I want to be the best and brightest person in every circumstance. I feel intimidated by other intelligent people rather than comfortable around them. I feel like life is one big competition.

    I am also upset because I haven't lived up to my own expectations yet and don't know if I ever will due to my anxiety disorder. I tell myself I'll fail before I even try. I failed Chemistry as a Bio major because I lost my motivation early on and now I'm an Anthro major/Bio minor who will likely have few job opportunities with a 2.3 gpa.
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    I want to be the best and brightest person in every circumstance. I feel intimidated by other intelligent people rather than comfortable around them. I feel like life is one big competition.
    Life is one big competition - but only in the largest, cosmological sense. In the personal interaction sphere, cooperation is key. After all, the mere concept of conversation is that people 'agree' that they will take turns in speaking and listening.

    You'd feel more at ease in conversation if you saw social interaction as an avenue to hear about things you might otherwise miss out on. The little gems of humour and interest will sparkle and stand out in a nest of only occasionally interesting anecdotes about people's jobs and families, sports data about activities you've never heard of by people you will never meet, the virtues and vices of foods and drinks you have no desire to taste. The little gems will be books, writers, places and ideas that you've not come across elsewhere. Or new information about places and things that are either familiar- "But I never knew there was a cafe, gallery, school there! Behind the Town Hall? Really?" or unknown - "Do you think it's worth a visit? Would you go back there if you had the chance?" Occasionally you'll come across people who've done something in an area that deeply interests you - and you'll be fascinated.

    Take the advice that's often given to people who are very shy. Don't try to talk at all. Do a lot of smiling and nodding - people will smile back and consider you very perceptive and intelligent - because your behaviour is an indication that you find them agreeable. Any talking you do should be feeding them their lines. There's no need to try and impress. If you let people assume that you're impressed, they will regard you more favourably. "He seems nice." they can say afterwards, without being able to remember any particular thing you said, because you didn't say much at all other than encouraging them to talk.

    "I feel intimidated by other intelligent people rather than comfortable around them." Use your eyes and ears rather than your mouth and your brain. My husband has 2 or 3 loosely intersecting groups of friends at university. One group contains not one but two professors of philosophy. It doesn't matter that I and most others in the group are pretty clever and pretty well-informed. When they talk on these topics, we listen. Though academics are actually more interested in a bit of a battle, you do have to really know what they're talking about before you engage. Sitting back and watching, and then reading up on the topic back at home if it interests you, is a better strategy for me. Same thing goes for the engineers and mathematicians. They can talk quite engagingly about various projects where the technicalities are waaaay above my 'pay' grade. But if you hang around, you'll find that there's plenty of conversation where you get the chance to talk in an ordinary, friendly way about issues in administration or supervising students or getting grant funds or seed money for new enterprises.

    Wanting to be the best and brightest everywhere you go is a very limiting ambition. What you really want is for your social life to enrich your internal life. Being around people who are clever, qualified, knowledgeable, talented in ways different from yourself is a privilege you should grab with both hands. You'll get nourishment for your own intellectual development. And nobody's emotional development was ever hurt by adding a bit of admiration for other individuals. And you can bask in the reflected pleasure of an acquaintance who happily tells you that they've got a scholarship or an award or an outstanding grade or a grant of research funds in some activity that interests both of you. It's a good feeling when someone you recently met takes the trouble to seek you out and tell you about getting their paper accepted for publication. They might even shout you a drink. (Even though your smiling and nodding approach means that you're lucky even to remember their name.)
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    "The mind is a terrible thing to waste." As said in a series of games you probably played a lot. But it implies here. Studying is one thing, and it brings comfort. But actually putting it to use in inventing new theories and supporting it with your study, is a lot more forfilling. This could be just what you need. A project, a hobby. I myself try to think about durable solutions in business. As i have my own viewpoint on them i tend to think of it as usefull. At the moment i'm still bound to my internship at Radboud UMC but when i'm done, i think i'll help a company in improving itself. To look forward gives me comfort.

    But at the end i realise i'm just an average student, with little chance for a great job. Hmm...
    Growing up, i marveled at star-trek's science, and ignored the perfect society. Now, i try to ignore their science, and marvel at the society.

    Imagine, being able to create matter out of thin air, and not coming up with using drones for boarding hostile ships. Or using drones to defend your own ship. Heck, using drones to block energy attacks, counterattack or for surveillance. Unless, of course, they are nano-machines in your blood, which is a billion times more complex..
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    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler View Post
    I'm 27 but I feel much older. I've studied History, Religion, German, Anthropology, Politics, Culture and Biology. I'm not an expert in any specific subject and have a wide array of interests and hobbies (birdwatching, powerlifting, singing, playing basketball,etc.). I just get bored with things so easily now. I feel I've already explored all of my interests to the extent I could ever possibly want to (I've been studying on my own for 7-8 years and I've taken courses in Mammalogy,European History, History of the South, Vertebrate Zoology, Andean Civilizations, Ornithology, Primatology, Microbiology, etc and read several books on these subjects and other subjects on my own such as Native American Hisory/Religion, Ancient Egypt and local history of NC and WV)...I feel that I have no friends and know that even if I choose to make friends, they will likely know nothing of science and history and annoy me...I feel that having friends is very important but my arrogant disposition and anxiety disorder won't allow me to maintain long-term relationships...I feel sometimes that life is ultimately meaningless and that there is no point in trying to accomplish anything in life as we all die anyway in the end...even if I could find a cure for AIDS or cancer, it would only be a temporary respite before one's ultimate and inevitable demise...I've always had trouble coping with the concept of death and I get nervous when I hear sirens or read of people who have recently died...I have palpitations and feel cold at times...my muscles sometimes twitch involuntarily...I'm on meds and it doesn't help much...what the hell is wrong with me?

    Hey I'm certainly no expert, but can offer you a suggestion that might help. What you need my friend is a good old fasioned dose of fun and siliness where you can meet people who probarbly arn't anything like as smart as you but it doesn't matter.

    Try taking up a pottery or barn dancing class or anything where you can just go and have some siliness. You will meet all kinds of different people and everyone of will be unique. People annoy each other all the but heck it doesn't matter about that just go have fun and siliness.

    Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chrisgorlitz View Post
    Hey I'm certainly no expert, but can offer you a suggestion that might help. What you need my friend is a good old fasioned dose of fun and siliness where you can meet people who probarbly arn't anything like as smart as you but it doesn't matter.

    Try taking up a pottery or barn dancing class or anything where you can just go and have some siliness. You will meet all kinds of different people and everyone of will be unique. People annoy each other all the but heck it doesn't matter about that just go have fun and siliness.

    Good luck.
    some of your posts in other threads have led me to believe that your grasp of the scientific process is abest scanty. However, your grasp of human relations and practical psychology seems rather good.
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    Quote Originally Posted by John Galt View Post
    some of your posts in other threads have led me to believe that your grasp of the scientific process is abest scanty. However, your grasp of human relations and practical psychology seems rather good.
    Some of your posts in other treads have led me to believe that your ability to sympathize or praise is rather puny. But this has proves that at times you can be positive about a post. Though while being still rather negative at times.
    Growing up, i marveled at star-trek's science, and ignored the perfect society. Now, i try to ignore their science, and marvel at the society.

    Imagine, being able to create matter out of thin air, and not coming up with using drones for boarding hostile ships. Or using drones to defend your own ship. Heck, using drones to block energy attacks, counterattack or for surveillance. Unless, of course, they are nano-machines in your blood, which is a billion times more complex..
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    gottspieler, just go read stuff that you love to read (science) and you'll be happier. Its not good to remember that you've learn alot of things (eg: science, ancient egypt, antrophology, stuff, ect) because that'll make you forget the joy that you had when knowing new stuff. -It will never get boring because knowledge is created at exponential rate... no human can ever catch up except Google search.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zwolver View Post
    Some of your posts in other treads have led me to believe that your ability to sympathize or praise is rather puny. But this has proves that at times you can be positive about a post. Though while being still rather negative at times.
    It is said that you can find sympathy in the dictionary between shit and syphillis. I choose to have no sympathy for people who are capable of better but act stupidly, reject the scientific method, refuse to provide evidence to support contentious claims, cannot offer or follow a reasoned argument, or are incapable of understanding their ideas are dumb. I wonder if you think people should receive a sympathetic ear when they behave in any of these ways.
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    I have a number of sites that could keep you busy for quite awhile…

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    Quote Originally Posted by John Galt View Post
    I choose to have no sympathy for people who are capable of better but act stupidly, reject the scientific method, refuse to provide evidence to support contentious claims, cannot offer or follow a reasoned argument, or are incapable of understanding their ideas are dumb.
    I still don't believe in dumb people. Everybody has skills, everybody should have some imput. Even Einstein was an idiot sometimes, in not accepting quantum mechanics behaving differently then general relativity. I don't think it's your mission to point out the idiots. Though you have the free choice to feel like you do now.

    My definition of an idiot, is someone who does not fit in to the world we live in now. This may differ completely from your perspective though. But in my opinion, everybody who tries, does not have a personal agenda, and who has sympathy for others, is not an idiot, as they fit in to today's society.
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    Growing up, i marveled at star-trek's science, and ignored the perfect society. Now, i try to ignore their science, and marvel at the society.

    Imagine, being able to create matter out of thin air, and not coming up with using drones for boarding hostile ships. Or using drones to defend your own ship. Heck, using drones to block energy attacks, counterattack or for surveillance. Unless, of course, they are nano-machines in your blood, which is a billion times more complex..
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    You make several valid points, but there are persons on this forum who do not try, do have a personal agenda, have no concern for others and certainly don't fit into the forum. There are other members who can be guilty on an occassional basis of any or all of the above. I expect to be called out if I am guilty of such behaviour. I don't make exceptions for others just because they are not me.
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    wow great post, i had to join the forums to reply.

    we all feel that way. all of us. some of us can tune it out, a large part of the problem is your brain, its too good for its own good. i like you searched and thought, and studied, and meditated, and found myself very much alone. life can suck, but it doesnt have to and there are many roses along the way. who are you without your medications? that is the real question. "thought" for me was a medication, when that stopped working for me, well here i am. what do i do? I am older than you, stare at a similar situation, have spent tons and tons of energy on things that if they ever bear for me in any material sense will take many more years to do so. very wise spiritual investor am i, not so great at investing in and wisely valuing myself. i am my most valuable possession, you are yours. we can think and philosphize all day long, and it doesnt give one that satisfaction of having, "done" anything. Take it from me, im really, really smart. thinking my way to the point where nothing makes sense except in the fatalistic sense, while it takes smarts to get there, it sucks to be there. ever seen crouching tiger hidden dragon? there you are.

    the trick is to turn off the brain, and realize that you are now and always were, an animal. satisfy your inner animal, that is the smartest thing you can do. neither you nor i are any different from the dogs or cats that some have recommended you try, just more complicated. if you ever want to philosophize on anything email me, but i promise we already know where that will end up. the point, the only point, to life is to be you, and have fun as much as possible. there is no point other than that, and that is enough.

    chemicals are part of the problem. the oil is the other. we all live in a world inflated by oil. all this, internet, time to think and study ad infinitum, is spiritually empty life. it is fake essentially. it will never leave us feeling filled up, only more vacant and will leave a growing and growing sense of guilt that with all this time and energy, nothing is getting done. we are all of us sitting here, reading this, online, and RIGHT NOW other very real people are starving looking at the end of the world and not from a cushy climate controlled office or desk or laptop on a couch, but from a dusty already starving village in "where the eff ever". you are a smart person, you know all this. so the solution is, chemical mood supplementation. ie government sanctioned happy, or anti sad, pills. dont drink the kool aid, figure out who you are, as the animal you are, and be that. run, scheme, plot plan, dream, you are your answer.

    let go of the fake life of oil, it will end sooner than later i think, invest in current time period life, harvest your life energy today, use it today. look for a career in a field that allows you to feel like you are combating the "system" i promise you, and you all, that is the root of the problem and it is most simply addressed as spiritual. integrating all the moments when i have something more than i have "earned" by the standards of everyone on the planet now or ever to have lived, we find that we are all spending and living lives far above what is "fair" like it or not, it bothers you. we are all into this oil addicted rape of our natural connection up to eyes and some of us are in deeper than that. if the power we use is solar, algae, wind, ANYTHING "real" we will all feel better. like we are contributing to something that WILL go on, because this paradigm, she will not.
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    Yes, the Present is always a good place to do some living in. conicsection, I like your Poste. Strong composition. Sensible and insightful expression. Shows a Gift. You might like to think of it as an intellectual gift. No. It is more like a Talent. It will grow with expression. Take up expressing Political judgements if you will. Any cancer eating away at our human capabilities for doing good should be exposed to the knife of talented people like yourself. I'm 78 years old. I'm still an Idealist. Tell me you will think out a few more assaults on human wasteful stragedy and stupidity, with the same fearless approach. I'll follow you to hell if you can straighten someones back who is in a position where they can add quality to human existance. Thanks. westwind.
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    friends. honest, social discourse with likeminded people is the best thing for most things. find your people, they are out there (7 billion to choose from) its true. the real thing is uncovering you in amongst all the fluffed up social and intellectual clutter that is, it seems to me, just an expression of the REAL effect that the oil is having on us. All that time to think, all that time to sit, for generations now. Its no wonder we are gettin a little weird.

    find the people who matter to you. who would you chop wood for, to keep them warm, or to keep the video games up and running so you can play, who matters to you? the human mind is evolved mostly under social pressure. it follows that the social aspect of life would likely be great exercise for the brain. find other people and hang out with them, face to face if possible but a good conversation is a good conversation...

    eat right, sleep plenty, work out if you cant sleep.

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    Lol, handing out emails in a public forum.. I'd simply give him a personal message. Haha. Still daring, not sure what to think of it .
    Growing up, i marveled at star-trek's science, and ignored the perfect society. Now, i try to ignore their science, and marvel at the society.

    Imagine, being able to create matter out of thin air, and not coming up with using drones for boarding hostile ships. Or using drones to defend your own ship. Heck, using drones to block energy attacks, counterattack or for surveillance. Unless, of course, they are nano-machines in your blood, which is a billion times more complex..
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    Well, it kinda is. My idea is, you should separate your avatar from your actual information. Just for whatever internet will bring in the future, and people who would abuse it. I'd simply message the adress, and remove it here. Trust me, ive minored in privacy rules and risks, and there are more then you can count.

    Anyway, Gottspieler, is he still active on the forum?? I hope this was not a goodbye note or anything, i surely hope he didn't do anything stupid .
    Growing up, i marveled at star-trek's science, and ignored the perfect society. Now, i try to ignore their science, and marvel at the society.

    Imagine, being able to create matter out of thin air, and not coming up with using drones for boarding hostile ships. Or using drones to defend your own ship. Heck, using drones to block energy attacks, counterattack or for surveillance. Unless, of course, they are nano-machines in your blood, which is a billion times more complex..
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    I think she posts on the other site now.
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    kinda complicated if you don't know about it. Anyway, I sent her a pm and let her know you asked about her. I have never really interacted with her much and so I don't know if she will even bother reading it. I don't post on the other forum much. But you could PM her here and if she has alerts to her email about PMs received she will get it.
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    well nothing really, just that I realized after I said that, that I have no idea what the nature of your interactions were. She may not want anyone to know where she went. No disrespect intended to you, just an embarrassing faux pas on my part.
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    OK, mike i sent tridimity a link to this thread. She said she would stop by and say hi.
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    OK, mike i sent tridimity a link to this thread. She said she would stop by and say hi.
    "She"???
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    OK, mike i sent tridimity a link to this thread. She said she would stop by and say hi.
    "She"???
    yes, tridimity is female as far as I know. Mikepotter asked about her.
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    OK, mike i sent tridimity a link to this thread. She said she would stop by and say hi.
    "She"???
    yes, tridimity is female as far as I know. Mikepotter asked about her.
    You know it seems kind of weird I didn't notice that one, you kind of normally get a sense of who you are talking to. Guess it never occurred to me or cropped up I just assumed tridimity was guy, no reason for this but no reason not to either.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler View Post
    I'm 27 but I feel much older. I've studied History, Religion, German, Anthropology, Politics, Culture and Biology. I'm not an expert in any specific subject and have a wide array of interests and hobbies (birdwatching, powerlifting, singing, etc
    I know the feeling. The problem is many fold. First off you're like me and suffer from mental illness. Don't think of it as somethimg to be ashamed of. Think of it as if your mind has a cold and you need to keep it warm and feed it chicken soup. It's not a negative reflection on who you are and it doesn't sound as if you're arrogant. Perhaps other people who are less inteligent than you are made you think that since you're more intelligent than they are then you must be arrogant. Nonsense. There are people who are shorter than I am but I don't think less of them because of it. There are people who are less inteligent than I am and l likewise don't think less of them for it. The fact is that I'm in that percentile. My IQ is 130 which means that I'm more intelligent than 97% of the people on this planet. That doesn't make me a bad person. It makes me different than most people, that's all. But only in that respect. When it comes to height I'm 5'10" which makes me about average in that respect. I stink at sports which makes me lesser than most people in that respect. If we focus in on one area of our life then we might feel out of place. The way to go about this kind of thing is to seek out those people whom you have things in common with. E.g. find a group who love to go to comedy clubs and go to a comendy club once a month and enjoy yourself. Or perhaps find a place on the board which catches your attention and find one person whose posts you find you agreeing with most often and send them a PM and start making new friends on the board. That's one of the reasons I joined this forum and the forums sister physics board. Perhaps go to counceling. That's what I do. It provides you with a person who you can discuss these problems with and have a sounding board to help you work things out. Maybe even take on an interesting task and specialize in just one thing and create a passion for it. I've decided to do that myself. I'm a physicist/mathematician and have been studying math and physice for most of my life. The scientific method has been a guiding light for many aspects of my life. But I came to realize that the scientific method has limitations to it and we need to start thinking outside the box. We need to keep more of an open mind and that's something that can be missing for many scientists.


    For example; I've seen and experienced some weird stuff in my life. From these experiences I know that there's something else going on in the universe that we just haven't scratched the surface of yet. I don't need to make money off it. I don't need to prove anything to anybody regarding it. I don't even need anyone to have similar beliefs either. What I've planned on doing is to start looking for more strange things and to start to try to fit the pieces together. I assume I won't get anywhere with it. But that doesn't mean I shouldn't try. To me this is like playing the lottery. I know that in all likelyhood that I won't win. The cool thing is that it's now possible for me to win. The same thing with expanding my horizons outside of the scientific method. I don't believe I'll get anywhere but at least now it's possible that I might. Get the picture? I'm speaking of the research that was done for a period of 30 years in a lab called the Princeton Engineering Anomoly Research (PEAR) lab. Have you heard of it?
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    I don't know about you guys but I think we can all get a bit down now and again, just seem to have a few off days where things just seem to much and all the fun seems gone out of life, well I'd been feeling like that for the last couple days. Just little things at first really starting to niggle at me.
    But today I went and took my parents down to Sheringham for the day on Norfolk coast, if I'm honest I wasn't really looking forward to it but my Mum's been wanting to go on this little steam railway they have their for a while. My Mum's 76 and Dad's 74 but they're are capable, and do get around by themselves, they usually go off to various different places, but I think it was just that they wanted to spend some time with me. Anyway they really seemed enjoy themselves and we all had a great day out. What this has shown is that seeing people happy, especially people I really care about, is great cure when you've got the blues
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    I hate the phrase because it's used so casually, but it it seems apt here: thank you for sharing.
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    Cheers, really appreciated.
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    Why is it that whenever I read "bored/disillusioned with life" I think "don't give up hope, there is always suicide" ?
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    Why is it that whenever I read "bored/disillusioned with life" I think "don't give up hope, there is always suicide" ?
    Hey don't tell them they might take you seriously, suicide is only a short cut anyway as we all get there in the end.
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    Agreed, suicide is cheating.
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    yeh
    that almost always remains unvoiced.
    and always when confronted by anyone seeming to feel that way.

    remember the line from the shawshank redemption?
    "Get busy living or get busy dying"

    I've found the best way out of depression is to do something for somebody else.
    Get into their head and their needs and help satisfy those needs----like you and your folks---their joy became your joy---joy is infectious.

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    rough translation-----do not confront your depression head on, do something for somebody else, and depression dissolves
    (melts, thaws and resolves itself into a dew)
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    Sounds like you are suffering from depression or may be bipolar. You should definitely seek medical attention...before it's too late.

    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler View Post
    I'm 27 but I feel much older. I've studied History, Religion, German, Anthropology, Politics, Culture and Biology. I'm not an expert in any specific subject and have a wide array of interests and hobbies (birdwatching, powerlifting, singing, playing basketball,etc.). I just get bored with things so easily now. I feel I've already explored all of my interests to the extent I could ever possibly want to (I've been studying on my own for 7-8 years and I've taken courses in Mammalogy,European History, History of the South, Vertebrate Zoology, Andean Civilizations, Ornithology, Primatology, Microbiology, etc and read several books on these subjects and other subjects on my own such as Native American Hisory/Religion, Ancient Egypt and local history of NC and WV)...I feel that I have no friends and know that even if I choose to make friends, they will likely know nothing of science and history and annoy me...I feel that having friends is very important but my arrogant disposition and anxiety disorder won't allow me to maintain long-term relationships...I feel sometimes that life is ultimately meaningless and that there is no point in trying to accomplish anything in life as we all die anyway in the end...even if I could find a cure for AIDS or cancer, it would only be a temporary respite before one's ultimate and inevitable demise...I've always had trouble coping with the concept of death and I get nervous when I hear sirens or read of people who have recently died...I have palpitations and feel cold at times...my muscles sometimes twitch involuntarily...I'm on meds and it doesn't help much...what the hell is wrong with me?
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    Quote Originally Posted by seagypsy View Post
    Agreed, suicide is cheating.
    Ah! But some people that want to die but can't do it themselves, become serial killers. As long as it lasts it's not boring and it usually ends with the cops killing you. Cheating or not a person wanting to die really doesn't care.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ascended View Post
    I don't know about you guys but I think we can all get a bit down now and again, just seem to have a few off days where things just seem to much and all the fun seems gone out of life, well I'd been feeling like that for the last couple days. Just little things at first really starting to niggle at me.
    But today I went and took my parents down to Sheringham for the day on Norfolk coast, if I'm honest I wasn't really looking forward to it but my Mum's been wanting to go on this little steam railway they have their for a while. My Mum's 76 and Dad's 74 but they're are capable, and do get around by themselves, they usually go off to various different places, but I think it was just that they wanted to spend some time with me. Anyway they really seemed enjoy themselves and we all had a great day out. What this has shown is that seeing people happy, especially people I really care about, is great cure when you've got the blues
    Absolutely.

    Laughter is also a great medication for the body and mind! People forget to laugh, and sometimes to just take the silly for the silly and go with it!
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    ---joy is infectious.
    I wish you had told me that before I slept with her.
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    I wish you had told me that before I slept with her.
    Great one liner!
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