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    WHAT ? i never posted here ... did i? :>
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    More or less been there, done that. Ended up working out poorly. I would either stay her friend and at the same time find another girl or risk everything and tell her how you feel. She might have the same feelings but is unsure of how you feel. In the end it will depend on if her feelings for you are stronger then for her boyfriend. I would say most of the time you are going to get burned on this kind of situation. You might loose a friend over it.

    At the same time I would not torture yourself forever. Being in love with someone that doesn't appear to love you back sucks. In my case all of my friends after I lost my female friend said she was in love with me and I should have moved faster. It didn't appear that way to me. Sometimes destiny has other plans for you.

    Love is complex, and sometimes it will just find you without any effort at all. Such is the case with my wife and I.

    Men and women don't make very good friends unless they are married or otherwise committed to each other in a more then friendly relationship. Sometimes it works if the two are so different that anything more then friendship repulses both parties.
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    i don't believe in love [yet] i just attracted to her, and i love being around her, and doing fun stuff with her.
    The last two things can lead to something wonderful when combined with the first.
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    If you truly wish to make an everlasting impact, if you want to influence her, if you want to guarantee that she will remember you - allways - and in a subconscious level cherish you, then..

    ..I will tell you how to achieve this.


    Rape her. Rape her like she's never been raped before.

    Pillage and conquer, violate, penetrate and desecrate!


    I mean, If this is what you are yearning for:

    "in short.. i don't think love exists... jsut the need to have a special bond"

    Them bonds don't come more special than the above suggestion.
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    And now we see why Perfect is still on Probation around here.
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    Sure sure.. disregard the scenario, the life-line where you nerds get laid, and piss on my delicate persona.

    The story of my life.


    It wasn't even me who said that, it was the one armed man. That posturing idiot has been following me around for years.
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    Sigh. Sometimes I could swear that (In)Sanity is a time-traveller from the mid-twentieth century.

    Men and women make great friends, but it is easier if they are partenered, either to each other or someone else. Then the whole sex question is answered. This is not true for adolescents; sex is too important for you.

    So, you are teen-agers. So, she's not married to the guy, right? It's probably going to end between them sometime. When that happens, you want to be there.

    Hang in there, just don't push it. Keep 'doing fun stuff' with her; do all you can to get both of you included in any group situations. Let her know you're interested subtly; don't push. In fact, she probably knows already, so don't worry about that.

    If her boyfriend is already jealous, you're doing something right.

    Meanwhile, stay away from her cousin! That could put you right of the running forever.
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    j are you married?
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    Quote Originally Posted by (In)Sanity
    j are you married?
    Oh, damn. I hate giving any personal information, but that question is definitely germane, isn't it?

    Yes, married; we've been together for 15 years.
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    Quote Originally Posted by j
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    j are you married?
    Oh, damn. I hate giving any personal information, but that question is definitely germane, isn't it?

    Yes, married; we've been together for 15 years.
    You've got about 10 years on me, so I'll have to take your advice on these issues with some seriousness. I guess my parents could also provide lots of experience in this being married 45 years. In any event I hope nobody gets their hearts broken, or eyes poked out
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    I don't know if years married counts for much in advice to teen-agers.

    But as for friendship across the sexes? Well, differing sexual expectations are hell on a friendship; I've had friendly sex; I've seen sex between friends result in one person leaving the continent. Friendship is a lot easier when you're partenered, because, assuming common decency, casual sex is probably out of the question.

    Frankly, I think if you cheat, it's not a partnership.

    But these are kids; chances are, the girl is not going to marry the other guy; chances are, she's going to have another boyfriend sometime; and with a bit of lucky timing, it could be Our Hero.

    I really liked his second post; I'm rooting for him.

    BTW, after that post, why hasn't Perfect's probation been revoked? Honestly, that child has no social skills whatsoever.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Perfect
    If you truly wish to make an everlasting impact, if you want to influence her, if you want to guarantee that she will remember you - allways - and in a subconscious level cherish you, then..

    ..I will tell you how to achieve this.


    Rape her. Rape her like she's never been raped before.

    Pillage and conquer, violate, penetrate and desecrate!


    I mean, If this is what you are yearning for:

    "in short.. i don't think love exists... jsut the need to have a special bond"

    Them bonds don't come more special than the above suggestion.
    You Are A Sick Little Bastard. are you a rapist? that helps nothing and no body. what might help is if people like you were shot (personal oppinion)

    I like j's plan, too bad i cant conceentrate on it, after readign that last post...

    Perfect, my dear, even if it was the one arm'd man that follows you around.. you could still edit the damm thing.
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    Perfect likes to create a problem and makes provocative posts like that just to get people to become excited at them.
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    Like a five year old who won't stop reaching for the cookie jar, no matter how many times you say not to ...
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    :x then ban the bugger. he had better not reach into my... cokkie jar..

    suppose he makes his contribution
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    Quote Originally Posted by goodgod3rd
    :x then ban the bugger. he had better not reach into my... cokkie jar..

    suppose he makes his contribution
    Perfect was banned once before, if he keeps on his current track he will be again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by j
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    Ha, forgot we had that option..good idea
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    If I inflict illustrations upon you which differ from the ’tap on the back’ responses you are all used to, I will get banned – again?

    Lizzen’

    A bond between two persons (persons from whom the other reeks of mental instability and is absent of the mirage of love) is a bond not connected even slightest to affection. And as we roam and strut in this planet, witnessing bonds, relationships, partnerships, disgusting-ass faggots and things of that nature, we must ask ourselves..

    How is the advice we give to an instable - too young to know better – person who does not believe in love, the exact same as we spout to everyone else?
    Aren’t you all so sweet, such an altruistic bunch. Objective analyses to everything etc etc..
    Well, as individuals, as friends and as experience yearning beings and self-proclaimed therapists we must be subjective and wish that our little buddy goodgod gets to oscillate his shaft in bile and urine.
    And as a society we – apparently - found my suggestion appalling, it was still a ditty supposed to brighten his cloudy day and to remind him that there are bonds other than the beastly love doodle.

    And my advice must have scared him, for you see he must have taken it to heart.
    Him and the lot of you, otherwise this shit-slinging fest against my delicate persona would not have occurred.

    So.. you can Bann me. But it does not make your opinions any more valid, correct or striking.
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    there are lots of bonds out there, but to absolutley love someone... is hard,

    so i don't belive.

    anyways.. rape is a bond, *if you say it is* but only for you, a bond between you and the poor girl you have forced. the girl feels this bond for the rest of her life, the fact that some male forced her to get screwed by him.. the fact she might blame herself. i simply cant imagine.

    How is the advice we give to an instable - too young to know better – person who does not believe in love, the exact same as we spout to everyone else?
    from what i just read, your saying HOW is the advise you gave me the same as what you would give someone else? its exactly the same. it the same word's.. same meaning.

    no. you think because you have objective views the
    illustrations upon you which differ from the ’tap on the back’ responses you are all used to
    . that you say im not going to take the same meaning?

    you are a fool. a damm fool, who thinks we are fools becasue we think your views are foolish.

    the fact you advised me to rape her.. to form a new bond? to prove to me that there are other bonds than the bond i don't belive in?

    your making no sense. you claim *afterward* that it was to prove to me that there are other bonds other than
    beastly love doodle
    i said i din't belive in it? i also siad that i belive my bond of friendship was stronger. and the bond i had of doing fun things?

    do not try and defend your shite, with more shite.
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    Quote Originally Posted by (In)Sanity
    Quote Originally Posted by j
    Life's too short. Use Ignore.
    Ha, forgot we had that option..good idea
    Thank you. Perfect inspired it originally. Some day I am actually going to use it on it myself.

    goodgod3rd, you are only encouraging it.
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    Goddamned right J, imbeciles who disregard the social, cultural, mental, biological, cognitive phenomenon’s and the like disgust me to-the-max.
    And as sure as hell encourage me to articulate my utter contempt, especially when they piss in the breeze, I don’t talk to people covered in piss, call it a principle.

    The little prick can't grasp anything yet perceives himself to be a champion of a kind.

    This because of you.. the parrot people. He's going to grow up to be one disoriented, miscomprehending and all around akin to downs-syndrome kind of a guy.

    In other words: The perfect candidate to abort when the ideology of eugenics finally reaches general consciousness.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Perfect
    Goddamned right J, imbeciles who disregard the social, cultural, mental, biological, cognitive phenomenon’s and the like disgust me to-the-max.
    And as sure as hell encourage me to articulate my utter contempt, especially when they piss in the breeze, I don’t talk to people covered in piss, call it a principle.

    The little prick can't grasp anything yet perceives himself to be a champion of a kind.

    This because of you.. the parrot people. He's going to grow up to be one disoriented, miscomprehending and all around akin to downs-syndrome kind of a guy.

    In other words: The perfect candidate to abort when the ideology of eugenics finally reaches general consciousness.
    If you have to be offensive, couldn't you at leat be fun to debate? You just jump into threads to spew off-topic and trite hostility ...

    You don't have germane points, or valid arguments, or even entertaining asides.

    You seem to have no goal but to cause outrage, and you are not even very good at that. There is no intellectual honesty in your posts.

    You are Stein's Los Angeles.
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    Perhaps Perfect should prefix his name just like mine is
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    Perhaps Perfect should prefix his name just like mine is
    Damm Right, should i tell him/her or will we hope he will jump into this post like randomly as always?
    and seen as i am posting *Which i wasn't planning on.. taking j's advise* i'll say this:

    The little prick can't grasp anything yet perceives himself to be a champion of a kind.
    for some strange reason im thinking.. of queens classic song... we are the champions...what damm good artists were they.
    another great song....
    well as the wise micheal jackson once said in a song " either your worng or your right"

    ignorance is bliss. your happy. fair enough

    You wanna think i cant grasp anything?
    You wanna think Im "going to grow up to be one disoriented, miscomprehending and all around akin to downs-syndrome kind of a guy." Thats your problem.
    especially when they piss in the breeze, I don’t talk to people covered in piss, call it a principle.
    Well a principle is a principle, but let me say.... if your civil, you'll piss in a toilet. and unless your camping which i very much doubt.. seen as you and I are both sitting at our P.c's .. you dont piss in any sort of wind. :P
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    Quote Originally Posted by Perfect
    This because of you.. the parrot people. He's going to grow up to be one disoriented, miscomprehending and all around akin to downs-syndrome kind of a guy.
    what would your mother think if she heard you using that kind of language?

    so you'd rather have him grow up as one violent Raping kind of guy who doesn't know any other type of bond other than the one that you are obviously familiar with.
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    But back to the topic, and are thing going between Our Heroine and her boyfriend? Is he still being a jerk? Are the two of you still talking for hours? Does she laugh at your jokes? Are you going to be hanging out together at all over the week-end?
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    i need a hug.
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    damm thats definately...shit i'd hate to be you.

    i would give you a hug, but i'd probably break the screen in doing so.

    Good luck with getting your shit sorted out.
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    I use to be a nice guy, being too nice for some reason gets you no women. Being a total prick will not let you keep them. Having a sense of humor and making them laugh appears to be a good compromise. My wife still says I'm nice, I can however be cruel and heartless.

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    *gives virtual hug*

    Good luck.

    Personally, if I were in your situation, I'd go and tell her how you feel before she hears it from somebody else. You don't have to tell her everything and you don't have to convince her to do anything, just let know how you feel and what you want to do about it.
    "In the beginning the Universe was created. This has made a lot of people very angry and been widely regarded as a bad move." -- Douglas Adams
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    Quote Originally Posted by (In)Sanity
    ... being too nice for some reason gets you no women. ...
    I married a nice guy; I dated perfect rotters.

    GG3:
    If it does blow up laugh at yourself if anyone else does.

    I think you should let her make the first move. Keep up with the sudden smiles when you see her, the eye contact when you talk, sitting two inches closer than standard, all the stuff I bet you're doing without even realizing it. I bet she knows you're interested, but she has a boyfriend. I think she has to let you know that it might be time for her to move on.

    [Just make sure you both keep showing up in the same place all the time ...]
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    This all brings back bad memories for me. I never lost a friend over it, however the relationship did come to an end ....in the end. Now, I look back and just don't care. I'm happily married. We are polar opposites.
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    *hugs everyone who offered a hug... and sends an invite to all those who didn't offer.. to have one any way*
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    Grin. Well, no, that wasn't quite what I was suggesting; you might to be able to legally drive champagne at your reception.

    Here's the thing; lots of teen-agers realize their affairs are probably not going to last for a long time. But no-one wants to dump somebody nice.

    And young men are not more sensible than young women; for every girl that won't date a nice guy, there's a boy that will only date prom queens [or tramps].

    When you're looking for a life partner, nice is pretty damn important; before that, charm wins hands down.
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    oh.. i m not looking for a life partner! im lloking for someone fun!
    i'm no looker! and i don't really care bout looks.
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    LOL, shall I translate that for ya
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    Quote Originally Posted by goodgod3rd
    oh.. i m not looking for a life partner! im lloking for someone fun!
    i'm no looker! and i don't really care bout looks.
    i just wanna go out with her for a while .. and have fun !!!
    So, develop charm.

    Oh, another good practical suggestion; watch stand-up comedy and one-person plays whenever you can; you will pick up on how to tell a story, and to hold an audience, and how to change mood smoothly in a conversation.

    And watch Denzel Washington; he won't get physical in his movies, but he has a look that he gives that's a real knee melter.

    BTW, hygiene and style are more important than looks.
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    i love stand up? has any of you americans heard of des bishop?
    and irish american.. grew up in the bronx in new york, went to xcollage, came her.. and talkis about us, he is like famous! but you americans son't know him!!

    or.. tommy teirrnan best irish comedian of my time! look em up!! seriously funny!

    oh .. i have charm.. i get hugs .. when ever i want! :P
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