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    Yes its another 'I'm leaving' note. Maybe people here need to start addressing some issues. Only temporary though, don't know for how long. Doctor says I need counselling because of something that happened recently and its been eating me up. I told him about this forum and how quite a few here get me wound up here too and I've got to cut it as its getting me even more stressed, turns out stress is the cause of my bladder problems.

    Anyway just thought I'd tell you I'm leaving. Hopefully I'll cool down a bit and learn anew philopsihpy, igonrance is bliss, especially with some users.

    I find here there are a lot of insulting people and although I know at times I've not been great, not good at all, but the forum has been pushing me away. So without furtur adue, I shall adress the people I find nice and considerate here, (that I know of-and in no particular order):

    KALSTER, marnixR, Obviously, Minxy, Ophiolite, Wolf, Mitchellmckain, paralith, solomongrundy, megabrain (when he want to be), serpicojr, dementolden, oh and of course ToR . Well there are a lot of you and there are some I can't remember. Some of you not on here are because of my memory and forgetting you, and the ones who are not, well they are not on the list but I can remember them. You know who you are.

    Anyways, thanks for a good haul and for some good advice some of you where others have shit on me. Thanks :wink: .

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    Another person leaving? There have indeed been a few who have left in a dramatic like fashion.

    well i for one will notice your gone. and you only went an got the title that we contended for :P "the doctor"

    I do hope i wasn't one of those on the list that you would care not to remember, and that i was one that was merely forgotten. I dont remember insulting you

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    I'm sorry to hear that you're having problems, and I do hope that you find ways to come to grips with them.

    I would just like to add this: though this may be a cynical point of view, the reality is that there will always be people in the world who will be happy to shit on you whenever they get the chance. Whether or not their intentions are good or bad, that's just how it is. It's important to learn to live with people like this, because there is no avoiding them. Not on an internet forum, not in real life. As you yourself are experiencing, allowing people like this to get to you and stress you out can significantly affect your quality of life.

    I wish you the best of luck.
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    I am sorry to see you go, especially at the time that I am only just returning so havent gotten to know you yet. Good luck with life though and I hope you get through your problems as quickly and well as possible
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    Even a character from Vagner wouldn't have a deathsong of that length...

    Well if you are going to piss off then do it, but wherever you piss off to look after yourself.
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    SV, I am hoping you will be looking in from time to time, if not actually posting. Many years (decades) ago I read somewhere - horror of horrors it may have been in the Readers Digest - some remarks on reacting to people.
    It was to the effect that if someone did something tha made us feel angry, or hurt, or frustrated that it was not really them who had done it, but we who weere doing it to ourselves. We can choose to be angry about another's actions. We can choose to be frustrated by another's ignorance. We can choose to be hurt by another's opinion.
    Or we can choose not to be. The choice is ours. We are in control of our own lives.

    Choice - it is a powerful and life sustaining tool.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ophiolite
    SV, I am hoping you will be looking in from time to time, if not actually posting. Many years (decades) ago I read somewhere - horror of horrors it may have been in the Readers Digest - some remarks on reacting to people.
    It was to the effect that if someone did something tha made us feel angry, or hurt, or frustrated that it was not really them who had done it, but we who weere doing it to ourselves. We can choose to be angry about another's actions. We can choose to be frustrated by another's ignorance. We can choose to be hurt by another's opinion.
    Or we can choose not to be. The choice is ours. We are in control of our own lives.

    Choice - it is a powerful and life sustaining tool.
    You've grown up in the last 12 months? - no way, you 2 faced bastard.
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    You're really gonna let the insulting people win, svwillmer?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Megabrain
    Quote Originally Posted by Ophiolite
    SV, I am hoping you will be looking in from time to time, if not actually posting. Many years (decades) ago I read somewhere - horror of horrors it may have been in the Readers Digest - some remarks on reacting to people.
    It was to the effect that if someone did something tha made us feel angry, or hurt, or frustrated that it was not really them who had done it, but we who weere doing it to ourselves. We can choose to be angry about another's actions. We can choose to be frustrated by another's ignorance. We can choose to be hurt by another's opinion.
    Or we can choose not to be. The choice is ours. We are in control of our own lives.

    Choice - it is a powerful and life sustaining tool.
    You've grown up in the last 12 months? - no way, you 2 faced bastard.
    Consider yourself warned.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Obviously
    You're really gonna let the insulting people win, svwillmer?
    sometimes it's better to step back, take a breath and come back refreshed at a time of your choosing, rather than let mere insults affect your life

    [btw, if you can manage it, wear the insults thrown at you as a badge of honour - in another forum i was once called a "fundie of the worst kind", so i included in my signature "universally acclaimed as a fundie of the worst kind"]
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    I'm still here although I don't post much at the moment.

    In case anyone was wondering.
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    Quote Originally Posted by spuriousmonkey
    In case anyone was wondering.
    I was.
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    i wonder how many long time members are still watching
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ophiolite
    SV, I am hoping you will be looking in from time to time, if not actually posting. Many years (decades) ago I read somewhere - horror of horrors it may have been in the Readers Digest - some remarks on reacting to people.
    It was to the effect that if someone did something tha made us feel angry, or hurt, or frustrated that it was not really them who had done it, but we who weere doing it to ourselves. We can choose to be angry about another's actions. We can choose to be frustrated by another's ignorance. We can choose to be hurt by another's opinion.
    Or we can choose not to be. The choice is ours. We are in control of our own lives.

    Choice - it is a powerful and life sustaining tool.
    Along similar lines, I've been told this: You can't control others; you can only control yourself.
    Man can will nothing unless he has first understood that he must count on no one but himself; that he is alone, abandoned on earth in the midst of his infinite responsibilities, without help, with no other aim than the one he sets himself, with no other destiny than the one he forges for himself on this earth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ophiolite
    SV, I am hoping you will be looking in from time to time, if not actually posting. Many years (decades) ago I read somewhere - horror of horrors it may have been in the Readers Digest - some remarks on reacting to people.
    It was to the effect that if someone did something tha made us feel angry, or hurt, or frustrated that it was not really them who had done it, but we who weere doing it to ourselves. We can choose to be angry about another's actions. We can choose to be frustrated by another's ignorance. We can choose to be hurt by another's opinion.
    Or we can choose not to be. The choice is ours. We are in control of our own lives.

    Choice - it is a powerful and life sustaining tool.
    In a similar vein,

    "If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment." ~ Marcus Aurelius
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    Quote Originally Posted by svwillmer
    Yes its another 'I'm leaving' note. Maybe people here need to start addressing some issues. Only temporary though, don't know for how long. Doctor says I need counselling because of something that happened recently and its been eating me up.
    Hey svwillmer i'm sorry to hear that. It's not good when things are eating at you.
    Try and get yourself into a good calm place, do things that get you there, that inspire you and make you feel glad to be alive.
    Concentrate 100% on yourself now.

    Quote Originally Posted by svwillmer
    I told him about this forum and how quite a few here get me wound up here too and I've got to cut it as its getting me even more stressed, turns out stress is the cause of my bladder problems.
    This forum is for the thick skinned or the stupid!

    I always felt you were here looking for answers and you had a genuine heart.

    This is not a good place if you are feeling stressed. Stress makes you vulnerable and lose balance.

    You have to be calm and balanced to get the most out of life, especially when things get rocky.

    And remember in the dark times, things are always only ever temporary, including feeling bad, upset and things eating at you.

    So fuck this lot and this forum svwillmer! Say it with glee and rise above it!

    Quote Originally Posted by svwillmer
    Anyway just thought I'd tell you I'm leaving. Hopefully I'll cool down a bit and learn anew philopsihpy, igonrance is bliss, especially with some users.
    Yes ignorance is bliss, but numbness isn't.

    You'll start on the quest again when you are good and ready, especially now you are on it, there is now no escape svwillmer, the only alternative is the numbness or not giving a shit. And you're far too inquisitive for that.

    It's important to take break, that means taking yourself away from it all for a bit, calm things down, become the hermit for a while and contemplate and absorb what and where you've got so far. That's natural and essential if you are going to learn anything. You'll develop your own philosophy, you already are. Trust yourself. Be independant. Don't always rely on others to tell you what's best.
    You can feel what is best for you and what is not, trust your feelings.

    Do things in your own time.

    And if anyone tries to make you feel bad, just shut the bastards out.

    You're a good guy and you don't deserve any shit (that's your mantra, keep saying it)

    Good luck with everything xxx
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    Quote Originally Posted by marnixR
    Quote Originally Posted by Obviously
    You're really gonna let the insulting people win, svwillmer?
    sometimes it's better to step back, take a breath and come back refreshed at a time of your choosing, rather than let mere insults affect your life

    [btw, if you can manage it, wear the insults thrown at you as a badge of honour - in another forum i was once called a "fundie of the worst kind", so i included in my signature "universally acclaimed as a fundie of the worst kind"]
    That's true svwillmer

    One of the best antidotes and acts as a flywheel to knock off any crap and shit that comes your way is to have a SOH

    But above all develop a SOH about yourself, believe me it works.

    If you can laugh at yourself the hardest no fucker else can.

    But also on a serious note

    Ophiolite was right about choosing

    Ask yourself this question

    Who the hell in this world has got the right to put you down and make anyone you feel shit? Do they have enough knowledge about you to make assumptions about you?
    No.
    Then fuck 'em,
    don't choose to take on their shit, why should you?
    That's what they're trying to do.
    Hand you their own shit to carry.

    And the great thing about choice is we can choose who our friends are and who we give our time to.
    Be brutal and cut off any of those you choose not to.

    Life's too short to dither or fuck around.

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    You're a good guy SV. Go chill with some friends. See a movie. Play some poker. Shoot a puck around. Whatever it is you do. Don't feel too responsible about just dropping off the forum radar. Life moves on for all of us sometimes.
    The most important thing I have learned about the internet is that it needs lot more kindness and patience.
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    Fair ye well, comrade! Nice words before me, most good advice. Your youth has been mentioned a few times on this forum by yourself and others. It is a good point. You are not likely to have all the answers yet and that’s fine! Don't worry too much about other people. Even the seemingly levelheaded ones have some insecurity. The main reason you might feel bad after a personal attack, is that you might wonder if they are right. They can't be! Nobody can know you better than you yourself. Only you can decide your own character and even though it might be controversial sometimes, you are plainly making an effort to understand yourself and the world around you, which is much more than most people can say! I look forward to your second coming! (sorry :wink: )
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    [quote]Yes its another 'I'm leaving' note. Maybe people here need to start addressing some issues. [/quote ]

    aww dear thats just too bad


    Greetings to everyone on the forum tonight. Glad to see some kind posts on here. I seem to have missed the couple of anons that were acting like real jerks
    Not excluding yourself of course




    Only temporary though, don't know for how long. Doctor says I need counselling because of something that happened recently and its been eating me up. I told him about this forum and how quite a few here get me wound up here too and I've got to cut it as its getting me even more stressed, turns out stress is the cause of my bladder problems.
    See what happens when you take the piss ?

    KARMA burns or in your case leaks my friend


    Anyway just thought I'd tell you I'm leaving. Hopefully I'll cool down a bit and learn anew philopsihpy, igonrance is bliss, especially with some users.

    I find here there are a lot of insulting people and although I know at times I've not been great, not good at all, but the forum has been pushing me away. So without furtur adue, I shall adress the people I find nice and considerate here, (that I know of-and in no particular order)
    Your too modest you know .



    KALSTER, marnixR, Obviously, Minxy, Ophiolite, Wolf, Mitchellmckain, paralith, solomongrundy, megabrain (when he want to be), serpicojr, dementolden, oh and of course ToR . Well there are a lot of you and there are some I can't remember. Some of you not on here are because of my memory and forgetting you, and the ones who are not, well they are not on the list but I can remember them. You know who you are.
    That was very touching indeed , am oscar winning peformance !


    Anyways, thanks for a good haul and for some good advice some of you where others have shit on me. Thanks :wink: .
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    I can see that
    this problem of your has imparied your objective mind

    Best take long break and some Kool Aid


    Dont get too hung up on that self pity , something tells me it wont be round that much longer


    Bye Bye ....

    Do come back when your found your true God , I'll be waiting with unexpected charms and loving arms

    In the meantime In honour of your sad departure Ive written a wee poem - just for you
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    Quote Originally Posted by 33
    Yes its another 'I'm leaving' note. Maybe people here need to start addressing some issues.
    aww dear thats just too bad

    Greetings to everyone on the forum tonight. Glad to see some kind posts on here. I seem to have missed the couple of anons that were acting like real jerks
    Not excluding yourself of course

    etc.etc.
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    [quote="33"]
    Yes its another 'I'm leaving' note. Maybe people here need to start addressing some issues. [/quote ]

    aww dear thats just too bad


    Greetings to everyone on the forum tonight. Glad to see some kind posts on here. I seem to have missed the couple of anons that were acting like real jerks
    Not excluding yourself of course




    Only temporary though, don't know for how long. Doctor says I need counselling because of something that happened recently and its been eating me up. I told him about this forum and how quite a few here get me wound up here too and I've got to cut it as its getting me even more stressed, turns out stress is the cause of my bladder problems.
    See what happens when you take the piss ?

    KARMA burns or in your case leaks my friend


    Anyway just thought I'd tell you I'm leaving. Hopefully I'll cool down a bit and learn anew philopsihpy, igonrance is bliss, especially with some users.

    I find here there are a lot of insulting people and although I know at times I've not been great, not good at all, but the forum has been pushing me away. So without furtur adue, I shall adress the people I find nice and considerate here, (that I know of-and in no particular order)
    Your too modest you know .



    KALSTER, marnixR, Obviously, Minxy, Ophiolite, Wolf, Mitchellmckain, paralith, solomongrundy, megabrain (when he want to be), serpicojr, dementolden, oh and of course ToR . Well there are a lot of you and there are some I can't remember. Some of you not on here are because of my memory and forgetting you, and the ones who are not, well they are not on the list but I can remember them. You know who you are.
    That was very touching indeed , am oscar winning peformance !


    Anyways, thanks for a good haul and for some good advice some of you where others have shit on me. Thanks :wink: .
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    I can see that
    this problem of your has imparied your objective mind

    Best take long break and some Kool Aid


    Dont get too hung up on that self pity , something tells me it wont be round that much longer


    Bye Bye ....

    Do come back when your found your true God , I'll be waiting with unexpected charms and loving arms

    In the meantime In honour of your sad departure Ive written a wee poem - just for you
    If its beyond your capabilities 33 to at least show a bit of understanding then why don't you just learn to shut up.

    You must have had to put up with alot of shit yourself when you didn't deserve it to have so much to deal out to others.

    I don't remember any time svwillmer was rude or obnoxious. A little innocent and gullible at times perhaps but then he is young.

    If you can't tolerate people that think and believe differently to you then what the hell are you doing on this forum as well as this planet?

    On svwillmers behalf - either log off, drop off or fuck off!
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    Its amazing what people see
    when its not there..
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