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    Does it happens-One has phobia about falling in love?


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    Yes!!!


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    What might be the reasons?
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    Quote Originally Posted by sculptor View Post
    Yes!!!
    What might be the reasons?
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    Quote Originally Posted by MarjorieTrench View Post
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    Yes!!!
    What might be the reasons?
    The need to reproduce.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shlunka View Post
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    Yes!!!
    What might be the reasons?
    The need to reproduce.
    Since when is love required for reproduction?
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    Quote Originally Posted by zinjanthropos View Post
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    Yes!!!
    What might be the reasons?
    The need to reproduce.
    Since when is love required for reproduction?
    It isn't. However, is the longing for a companion of the opposite sex not directly correlated with the desire to reproduce?
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    any other satisfactory reasons??????
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    Quote Originally Posted by MarjorieTrench View Post
    any other satisfactory reasons??????
    Er... perhaps love "or any interaction with human beings for that matter" is a way to prevaricate?
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    Phobia? Or just plain fear.

    Falling in love requires you to trust someone, more or less totally. It requires you to allow yourself to be vulnerable. If you, or someone you know, "fears" falling in love with a particular person or with anyone at all they've either got a 'spidey sense' that this person can't be trusted with their emotional well-being or their earlier life experiences have made them more wary in general than most of us.

    Or they might have a general mental/emotional health problem like anxiety.
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    Er... whoops. For whatever reasons... I thought "phobia" meant to have a proclivity for.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shlunka View Post
    Er... whoops. For whatever reasons... I thought "phobia" meant to have a proclivity for.
    It's ok shlunka, you can't be a genius all the time. Sometimes you have to take a break. That's how I do it. I am a genius for only a moment or two at a time. Then I have to take really long breaks before I can do it again. Sometimes my breaks are years in length. But when I am back on duty, it is soooo worth it.
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    Speaking badly about people after they are gone and jumping on the bash the band wagon must do very well for a low self-esteem.
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    Quote Originally Posted by adelady View Post
    Phobia? Or just plain fear.

    Falling in love requires you to trust someone, more or less totally. It requires you to allow yourself to be vulnerable. If you, or someone you know, "fears" falling in love with a particular person or with anyone at all they've either got a 'spidey sense' that this person can't be trusted with their emotional well-being or their earlier life experiences have made them more wary in general than most of us.

    Or they might have a general mental/emotional health problem like anxiety.
    This is quite Satisfactory !!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by shlunka View Post
    Er... whoops. For whatever reasons... I thought "phobia" meant to have a proclivity for.
    Its OK
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    Quote Originally Posted by shlunka View Post
    It isn't. However, is the longing for a companion of the opposite sex not directly correlated with the desire to reproduce?
    Perhaps for heterosexuals, but what about other orientations?
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    Phobia is generally thought to be a irrational fear of something....something that really doesn't produce any danger. However with love...that's a different story. Ask anyone who has watched their significant other plunge their hand into your chest and rip out your still beating heart, show it to you while it was still beating...then take a bite of it like an apple....followed by waggling their blood soaked tongue at you. It's definitely enough to instill fear for future relationships. Once bitten, twice shy.
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    Mild fears if unaddressed may slowly build into true phobias.

    the psychology papers are rife with phrases attempting to zero in on fears of a like nature
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    fear of intimacy
    fear of "loosing one's self"

    fear can be an excellent motivator, or a lifelong disability.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sculptor View Post
    Mild fears if unaddressed may slowly build into true phobias.

    the psychology papers are rife with phrases attempting to zero in on fears of a like nature
    eg:
    fear of intimacy
    fear of "loosing one's self"

    fear can be an excellent motivator, or a lifelong disability.
    How can one overcome the FEAR that might render someone fragile ???
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    Commitmentphobia: been around for a long time. Brothels do very well thanks to this malaise.
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    fragility is where love becomes obvious
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    How can one overcome the FEAR that might render someone fragile ???
    That is very difficult to answer because once you've been betrayed you'll lose hope that you will ever truely love again. There are some thatr can overcome that fear but they are the few not the majority and thgey just give a great deal of caution to their next "partner" and make them EARN trust, not just give it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MacGyver1968 View Post
    Phobia is generally thought to be a irrational fear of something....something that really doesn't produce any danger. However with love...that's a different story. Ask anyone who has watched their significant other plunge their hand into your chest and rip out your still beating heart, show it to you while it was still beating...then take a bite of it like an apple....followed by waggling their blood soaked tongue at you. It's definitely enough to instill fear for future relationships. Once bitten, twice shy.
    Reminds me of something...


    skip to 2:03... I set the link to go there but it isn't working.
    Speaking badly about people after they are gone and jumping on the bash the band wagon must do very well for a low self-esteem.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MarjorieTrench View Post
    Does it happens-One has phobia about falling in love?
    There are also observably people who do not have the same emotional response to situations/other persons as the presumed baseline for the majority of our society and as portrayed in many 'romance' novels and 'chick flicks'.

    Yes, there are people who have been emotionally devastated or have observed others go through such trauma...some people have endured sexual abuse or interference and their emotional response to normal sexual hormones has become skewed...certain other people process information in a completely different way and may have most of their energy channeled to other interests...Sheldon in The Big Bang Theory comes to mind.

    Some of these causes of lack of response or 'fear to love' may be overcome with time and exposure to the right partner though where there is a lack of interest in emotional and sexual response, I an uncertain if there would be an inclination for change.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MarjorieTrench View Post
    Does it happens-One has phobia about falling in love?
    Absolutely.
    One of the many reasons is child abuse which often leads to unwillingness to form close associations with others even as adults decades later.
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