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  1. #1 Stressed at Work... 
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    My Boss:

    -Has gotten angry and corrected me in front of customers, which I find insulting

    -Has threatened to take away hours for no valid reason in the past

    -told me to "watch my tone" before..and I wasn't even yelling..I just went to get carts on my own b/c we were all out and he was mad that I didn't tell customer service..but customer service usually allows me to...so I said "I can't believe you don't want anyone to take initiative".

    -When I told him last week that a customer needed money, he got angry and said, "no, you don't tell me they need money...YOU need the money"..which is wrong..I don't need it..it is THEIR f'n money!!

    -always looks angry and comes off as being anti-social

    I know I can't change him..but being around people like that triggers my anxiety. I know what I wrote sounds minor but it's also the harsh, almost furious tone in which he says things. I feel that I need to either confront him or quit. I know other people simply accept being treated poorly but I refuse to grovel much longer. I'm willing to admit it could be partially my fault for allowing these things to bother me. I don't like working with other people in the first place..lol..I'm thinking of staying home and writing a novel. Mainly, I can't afford to work for someone who tries to intimidate other people with threats. I don't want to have a stroke at 40.

    Would you quit or adapt?


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    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler
    I know I can't change him.
    However, you can change yourself. You should probably start there.


    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler
    I'm willing to admit it could be partially my fault for allowing these things to bother me.
    Indeed, sir. This is a very mature comment. I would propose, though, that you stop pretending you're a victim in all of this. Your boss probably has a point, even if he doesn't express it in a way you enjoy.


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    You need to take assertiveness training, then you won't come across like an arrogant lout.
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    Assert what you feel is acceptable and what isn't, do it politely and lay your cards on the table. If he can't see you being mature and polite about it he won't give a damn.
    "If you wish to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe". - Carl Sagan
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