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  1. #1 F@CK!!! The Official Venting Thread 
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    F@CK!! I need to use this thread to get some shit off of my chest... Feel free to do the same. I'll give advice if I'm able or sympathize/empathize. I can't afford therapy so this is my best bet.

    Why can't people live and let live? My brother tries to get an attitude with me about everything and makes things difficult. I go out of my way to be a good guy. I never yell (ok, rarely ). I care about people's feelings. I share. I'm sick of getting shit for it. People think being nice is for losers..that it's almost effeminate.

    I'm not gonna let someone younger and less experienced than me have so much control anymore. My brother mistakes my not being able to stand up firmly to him as a weakness (which makes me even more angry b/c people don't see me as a fighter and assume he could take me on just b/c he has an attitude even though I'm the weightlifter in the family..talk about emasculation...)...but I see myself punching him if I get angry...that's why I have to be careful. I have anxiety disorder and therefore despise confrontation and he sometimes refers to my nervousness as "being a pussy". He says he's kidding but I don't know. I respect the kid somewhat, but he's got an ego the size of Texas and his way is always the "right" way.

    I was talking to him about his car insurance situation awhile back and because I didn't immediately understand what he told me about it, he said "I get tired of ignorance". WOW.. that did it for me...I was dumbstruck. When I spend 10 hours a week reading and have been working my damn ass of in school for 6 years you don't EVER disrespect me like that...especially concerning a sensitive subject like one's intelligence. I would have f'n exploded on him but we were on our way to WV at the time and had a long trip ahead. Yea, maybe I don't always have something to talk about with him...but he majored in Accounting and knows about cars while I focus on science and philosophy/history. I'm the OLDER, more mature brother. All I want is for him to respect me dammit!!!


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    I daresay you'll get sympathy from others. I don't do sympathy, I do reality. In the long run it's more useful.
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    I'm the OLDER, more mature brother.
    Then act like it.
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    All I want is for him to respect me dammit!!!
    What you want doesn't matter. All you need is to respect yourself. Start today.


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    I know it seems I'm fishing for compliments/ sympathy. What I'm doing is simply vomiting out all of my anger because it feels good to get the poison out sometimes, even if it's only on a forum. Consider my initial post moot now and use this thread to complain as it is intended that people share their own misery.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler
    use this thread to complain as it is intended that people share their own misery.
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    Money is the root of all evil.
    People gain power, by building a good defence, good offence, good intelligence, great strategy and great heart. Money, is what you get while you're up there, and you can buy defences with it, as well as offence - and it builds, to the point where you control more power than you have. Without it, why become powerful. Anything you are given to increase power costs.

    Respect is what power should cost, its human. People gain respect, and as a token of respect gain money; this shouldn't happen. It pulls people apart.
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    Too much money in the wrong hands is evil. I don't think, however, that money itself is the problem. Human nature (greed, violent tendencies) and faulty nuture or lack of nurture are to blame. People of a giving nature use money to fund public housing projects, to feed the poor and to improve education. However, we live with genes that have a recent history of inhabiting hunter-gatherer ancestors. Competing tribes were often at war. We no longer kill each other for resources (well...the most civilized among us) but we certainly would, if starving on a desert island devoid of food with others, likely resort to cannibalism eventually. Any other animal would do the same. The survival instinct is stronger than any other and overrides the reasoning mind. To a greater extent it would be demonstrated by the scenario above. To a lesser extent it's exploitation of workers by a CEO. That's not to say that all people are inherently evil...only that nearly all have a desire to obtain great wealth despite the consequences to the lower class. When there is excess money involved and people are finacially at ease, then we sometimes see charity.
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    Money is not the root of all evil. It is simply present with all evil.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler
    Too much money in the wrong hands is evil. I don't think, however, that money itself is the problem. Human nature (greed, violent tendencies) and faulty nuture or lack of nurture are to blame. People of a giving nature use money to fund public housing projects, to feed the poor and to improve education. However, we live with genes that have a recent history of inhabiting hunter-gatherer ancestors. Competing tribes were often at war. We no longer kill each other for resources (well...the most civilized among us) but we certainly would, if starving on a desert island devoid of food with others, likely resort to cannibalism eventually. Any other animal would do the same. The survival instinct is stronger than any other and overrides the reasoning mind. To a greater extent it would be demonstrated by the scenario above. To a lesser extent it's exploitation of workers by a CEO. That's not to say that all people are inherently evil...only that nearly all have a desire to obtain great wealth despite the consequences to the lower class. When there is excess money involved and people are finacially at ease, then we sometimes see charity.
    Quote Originally Posted by gottspieler
    Too much money in the wrong hands is evil. I don't think, however, that money itself is the problem. Human nature (greed, violent tendencies) and faulty nuture or lack of nurture are to blame. People of a giving nature use money to fund public housing projects, to feed the poor and to improve education. However, we live with genes that have a recent history of inhabiting hunter-gatherer ancestors. Competing tribes were often at war. We no longer kill each other for resources (well...the most civilized among us) but we certainly would, if starving on a desert island devoid of food with others, likely resort to cannibalism eventually. Any other animal would do the same. The survival instinct is stronger than any other and overrides the reasoning mind. To a greater extent it would be demonstrated by the scenario above. To a lesser extent it's exploitation of workers by a CEO. That's not to say that all people are inherently evil...only that nearly all have a desire to obtain great wealth despite the consequences to the lower class.
    People should work together to survive - and should do it, because they have to do it. The housing projects, should not cost money; if we cant do it by heart and brain then it should not be there. We should be compassionate and sympathetic to others, rather than evil and strict with each other. The resources are there, the only thing that isn't is work power - which can also be achieved, if human will and respect was strong enough - We're doing it, with money, with resources we use money to pay for, and workers who are paid money for collecting it.

    With money we take away the reward for being a good, hard-working person, in tough and harsh surroundings. So it's no longer 'survival of the fittest' but rather 'survival of the richest' - Which is evil. Presidential control is good, it demonstrates 'trust', the way in which people chosen to be in control is incorrect, is should be given to those who are wise, rather than educated.
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    And sware by Him that liveth for ever and ever, Who created Heaven, and the things that therein are, and the Earth, and the things that therein are, and the sea, and the things which are therein, that there should be time no longer"

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    People do generally work together in times of great opulence. "Survival of the fittest" is simply the fact that those most well-suited to their environment tend to be more likely to survive. In certain environments, the poor are more likely to survive and thrive, as the wealthy are often robbed and or murdered. The rich don't always have the upper hand. Presidents are not chosen for the qualities you've described. They aren't chosen because they are wise or educated. They are chosen because, for some reason or another they are popular with the common man.
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    I get the feeling that you and your brother are two peas in a pod arguing that "your" end of the pod is better. Anyway, isn't this how things are between brothers? I know when i was growing up all me and my brothers ever did was fight. The only time we would call a truce and work together was when we were doing something horrible to our sister.

    I remember once we tried to catapult the youngest, errrr somewhere, using a small young tree. We tied some rope near the top and pulled it down toward the ground then persuaded him to climb on. Before we were ready to let go though, he slipped off and the tree moved back upright with great speed and one of the branches hit the second youngest (who's idea it was all along) on the underside of his chin and he flew backward then cracked his scull and spent some time at the hospital.

    The universe, as they say, has a way of correcting things.
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    Holy shit!
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    The earth was without form and void, and darkness was upon the face of the deep; and the Spirit of God was moving over the face of the waters.

    The Earth - form and void.
    darkness - face 'of the' deep.
    God + Moving - face 'of the' waters.


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    And God said, "Let there be light"; and there was light.

    Said "Let there be Light" - Light

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    And God saw that the light was good; and God separated the light from the darkness.

    Both earth, and light are good. + - +
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    Quote Originally Posted by legaci
    The earth was without form and void, and darkness was upon the face of the deep; and the Spirit of God was moving over the face of the waters.

    The Earth - form and void.
    darkness - face 'of the' deep.
    God + Moving - face 'of the' waters.


    (ERV - DFD) + (GM - FW)

    And God said, "Let there be light"; and there was light.

    Said "Let there be Light" - Light

    (+1 + 1)

    And God saw that the light was good; and God separated the light from the darkness.

    Both earth, and light are good. + - +
    the garden of 'eden' ha

    1 First God made heaven & earth 2 The earth was without form and void, and darkness was upon the face of the deep; and the Spirit of God was moving over the face of the waters. 3 And God said, "Let there be light"; and there was light. 4 And God saw that the light was good; and God separated the light from the darkness. 5 God called the light Day, and the darkness he called Night. And there was evening and there was morning, one day. 6 And God said, "Let there be a firmament in the midst of the waters, and let it separate the waters from the waters." 7 And God made the firmament and separated the waters which were under the firmament from the waters which were above the firmament. And it was so. 8 And God called the firmament Heaven. And there was evening and there was morning, a second day. 9 And God said, "Let the waters under the heavens be gathered together into one place, and let the dry land appear." And it was so. 10 God called the dry land Earth, and the waters that were gathered together he called Seas. And God saw that it was good. 11 And God said, "Let the earth put forth vegetation, plants yielding seed, and fruit trees bearing fruit in which is their seed, each according to its kind, upon the earth." And it was so. 12 The earth brought forth vegetation, plants yielding seed according to their own kinds, and trees bearing fruit in which is their seed, each according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. 13 And there was evening and there was morning, a third day. 14 And God said, "Let there be lights in the firmament of the heavens to separate the day from the night; and let them be for signs and for seasons and for days and years, 15 and let them be lights in the firmament of the heavens to give light upon the earth." And it was so. 16 And God made the two great lights, the greater light to rule the day, and the lesser light to rule the night; he made the stars also. 17 And God set them in the firmament of the heavens to give light upon the earth, 18 to rule over the day and over the night, and to separate the light from the darkness. And God saw that it was good. 19 And there was evening and there was morning, a fourth day. 20 And God said, "Let the waters bring forth swarms of living creatures, and let birds fly above the earth across the firmament of the heavens." 21 So God created the great sea monsters and every living creature that moves, with which the waters swarm, according to their kinds, and every winged bird according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. 22 And God blessed them, saying, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the waters in the seas, and let birds multiply on the earth." 23 And there was evening and there was morning, a fifth day. 24 And God said, "Let the earth bring forth living creatures according to their kinds: cattle and creeping things and beasts of the earth according to their kinds." And it was so. 25 And God made the beasts of the earth according to their kinds and the cattle according to their kinds, and everything that creeps upon the ground according to its kind. And God saw that it was good. 26 Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness; and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth." 27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. 28 And God blessed them, and God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth." 29 And God said, "Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit; you shall have them for food. 30 And to every beast of the earth, and to every bird of the air, and to everything that creeps on the earth, everything that has the breath of life, I have given every green plant for food." And it was so. 31 And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good. And there was evening and there was morning, a sixth day.
    1 Thus the heavens and the earth were finished, and all the host of them. 2 And on the seventh day God finished his work which he had done, and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had done. 3 So God blessed the seventh day and hallowed it, because on it God rested from all his work which he had done in creation. 4 These are the generations of the heavens and the earth when they were created. In the day that the LORD God made the earth and the heavens, 5 when no plant of the field was yet in the earth and no herb of the field had yet sprung up--for the LORD God had not caused it to rain upon the earth, and there was no man to till the ground; 6 but a mist went up from the earth and watered the whole face of the ground-- 7 then the LORD God formed man of dust from the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being. 8 And the LORD God planted a garden in Eden, in the east; and there he put the man whom he had formed. 9 And out of the ground the LORD God made to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight and good for food, the tree of life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. 10 A river flowed out of Eden to water the garden, and there it divided and became four rivers. 11 The name of the first is Pishon; it is the one which flows around the whole land of Havilah, where there is gold; 12 and the gold of that land is good; bdellium and onyx stone are there. 13 The name of the second river is Gihon; it is the one which flows around the whole land of Cush. 14 And the name of the third river is Tigris, which flows east of Assyria. And the fourth river is the Euphrates. 15 The LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to till it and keep it. 16 And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, "You may freely eat of every tree of the garden; 17 but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall die." 18 Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." 19 So out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all cattle, and to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for the man there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh; 22 and the rib which the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said, "This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." 24 Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed.

    1 Now the serpent was more subtle than any other wild creature that the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, "Did God say, 'You shall not eat of any tree of the garden'?" 2 And the woman said to the serpent, "We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden; 3 but God said, 'You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.'" 4 But the serpent said to the woman, "You will not die. 5 For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil." 6 So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate; and she also gave some to her husband, and he ate. 7 Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves aprons. 8 And they heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the LORD God called to the man, and said to him, "Where are you?" 10 And he said, "I heard the sound of thee in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself." 11 He said, "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?" 12 The man said, "The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate." 13 Then the LORD God said to the woman, "What is this that you have done?" The woman said, "The serpent beguiled me, and I ate." 14 The LORD God said to the serpent, "Because you have done this, cursed are you above all cattle, and above all wild animals; upon your belly you shall go, and dust you shall eat all the days of your life. 15 I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her seed; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel." 16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children, yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you." 17 And to Adam he said, "Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, 'You shall not eat of it,' cursed is the ground because of you; in toil you shall eat of it all the days of your life; 18 thorns and thistles it shall bring forth to you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. 19 In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; you are dust, and to dust you shall return." 20 The man called his wife's name Eve, because she was the mother of all living. 21 And the LORD God made for Adam and for his wife garments of skins, and clothed them. 22 Then the LORD God said, "Behold, the man has become like one of us, knowing good and evil; and now, lest he put forth his hand and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever" -- 23 therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden, to till the ground from which he was taken. 24 He drove out the man; and at the east of the garden of Eden he placed the cherubim, and a flaming sword which turned every way, to guard the way to the tree of life.
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    oh for fuck sake, another one...
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    Legaci reminds me how much I abhor opus magnum posts. Anyway, enough of my griping...

    Gottspieler, you seem in a game of paddleball ... he's the paddle and you're the ball.

    But honestly, I think Ophiolite is right. That is, your brother knows he gets to you. It's a power trip. He can't pound you physically because he's the younger brother, so he uses his mouth -- yes, just like a woman runs her mouth. (That should give you something to grin about inside.) I have two sons, now young men, and the exact same thing has occurred between them throughout their childhood and into adulthood, except that the older one pounds the younger who gives him lip back when he can.

    You can't pretend to be above it all. You actually must transcend it. He's forcing you to trim your personality, or suffer the consequences. It's like when Alexander the Great ordered his men to shave their beards so their enemies couldn't grab hold of them so easily. Don't give him anything to grab hold of your feelings. And the more you look like you're trying to resist, the more your brother will test you. Until you break through.
    Grief is the price we pay for love. (CM Parkes) Our postillion has been struck by lightning. (Unknown) War is always the choice of the chosen who will not have to fight. (Bono) The years tell much what the days never knew. (RW Emerson) Reality is not always probable, or likely. (JL Borges)
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    Ok..I was going to really try not to vent for awhile...but what happened yesterday absolutely destroyed me. The problem is, I'm the kind of person who won't even attempt to explain something unless and until all the facts are known and known in detail. So when my dad's friend asked me yesterday what I'd do with a Bio degree, I said "teaching or research" but felt I wasn't explaining things well enough and just looked at him for a minute and then looked off into space embarassed. This happens all the time. People ask me what I'll do with my major and I can't say yet. I could mention researching cancer, but all I know right now about cancer is that p53 is upregulated in many cancers and that it starts via onco-gene mutations due to carcinogens and you often don't know you have it until you have a buildup of nearly a billion cells. This wouldn't explain what I would be researching. I haven't gotten to the point where research is feasible because I'm still learning.

    But I know that people see my lack of an answer as ignorance. I told my dad last night "I''ll be glad when I get my degree in Bio" and then he said "OR something else". That's almost enough to make me question if life is worth living. How can I believe in myself if my own father thinks I'm not good enough to major in a subject I love. Not being a good orator doesn't equal being stupid. Unfortunately, 95% of the world thinks it does. And much of the reason I lack confidence now anyway is due to his making me feel insecure. I don't see how he can insult me like he does. He knows that I know a lot of things because I've occasionally talked to him about the things I've read.
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    gottspeiler,
    I'm not a qualified counsellor and an internet forum is not the ideal place to solve people's personal problems, but I'm an over confident, presumptuous son-of-a-bitch, so I'll have a go. (The bad news is I used to be like you, so you can see what you have to look forward to.)

    Here are some thoughts to keep in mind.

    1.The world, for the most part, really doesn't give a damn about you. Even those close to you have their own concerns that have to be attended to from time to time.

    2. In that regard, do you ever consider the difficulties that your father faces on a day to day basis? It seems to be all about you. What are his concerns? I know one of them - see the next point.

    3. You think your father insulted you with the remark "OR something else". Please wake up and stop being a self indulgent prat. That remark told me he loves you greatly and is genuinely fearful for your future. Translated that remark said -"You've chopped and changed your interests so often I'm surprised you aren't giddy. You can't settle on anything. I don't know what you will end up doing if you can't finally get some focus." Is this a valid viewpoint? Of course it is. How many years have you been struggling towards a degree? How many more are you apparently going to take? A degree should be a three or four year effort - job done. Why have you been farting around?

    4. When your Dad's friend asked what you were going to do he didn't expect an eighty page report and PowerPoint presentation. He was asking out of polite interest. Your embarassment was really a reflection of your own self knowledge that you haven't got things pinned down yet. Put another way, you are reading way too much into the significance of your interaction with others. Did you even think of asking him how he made his career choices? Of course you didn't, you are too wrapped up in your own ME, ME, ME existence.

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    Not being a good orator doesn't equal being stupid. Unfortunately, 95% of the world thinks it does.
    So do something about it. I avoided any form of public speaking until my final year in University. Now I am acknowledged as the finest presenter within the Division of my company. I have to tell you that that feels pretty good. But I didn't get there by lamenting how the world works, I knuckled down and learnt how speak and persuade. Preparation, Practice and Passion are all you need.

    At present you feel like you need someone to build you up and I'm doing more ripping down. Tough. Life is like that. Now you have the intellect to take these things on. You have the background to make a success. You have the basic knowledge to provide a solid foundation. All you lack, it seems to me, is the will to get out and do it and stop bothering about what others think of you. It doesn't matter - not until they think very well of you and you realise they do so because of your efforts and your choices.

    Stop the self pity today and build on what you have.

    Good luck. (But more to the point, I wish you the will to employ good preparation, good practice and great passion.)
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    Hear, hear. I genuflect in your general direction, sir.
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    Thanks. I know I need to change. I feel miserable every day and it isn't worth it. I want to make it to at least 65.
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    Recognising the need for change is half the battle. Well done.
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    Gottspieler you should heed Ophiolites advice, he sounds like a very wise man.

    On this particular part which he said:

    All you lack, it seems to me, is the will to get out and do it and stop bothering about what others think of you. It doesn't matter - not until they think very well of you and you realise they do so because of your efforts and your choices.
    I can tell you - FOLLOW THIS ADVICE AND STOP BEING A COWARD! And im speaking out of personal experience.

    Before - i always wanted everyone to like me, i changed myself all the time to what i though people wanted out of me and i said what i though people wanted to hear.

    The IRONIC part is that if you live like this long enough NOONE will like you. Because ultimatly they wil see you for what you are, a fake.

    Acting this way gave me the delusion once that i was so smart, that i was "pulling strings and controlling and manipulating others" This is such self deception because you can NOT act and be this way all the time without LOSING yourself. All you will end up as is a sad and tragic shadow of a man that will stand before the mirror if you reach 80 years wondering "Who the fuck am i..." and ill bet you cant say 10 things you genuinely like or dislike because you will be the sum of the people you met in your life and wanted to befriend and there wont be a "you"

    First i reccomend you to watch this video:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uASVzkrEKgs

    Then i reccomend dont giving a flying fuck about what everyone thinks - and start doing what the hell you WANT to do.

    First i was afraid my friends would think ive gone crazy or start to dislike me - INSTEAD they started respecting me more and more and complimenting me on having gotten alot more confidence (Which i found a surprise at the time)

    So as you can see reality is in "opposite land", if you care about what everyone thinks of you and you try to get everyone to like you noone will like you. If you however DONT care about what everyone thinks, the one that will start to like you... are the ones you yourself want to do so - without you realize it.

    Another mistake you seem to be doing which i myself as a previous "dreamer" did, was overthinking everything. Stop that!

    Anyway good luck with life, and as Ophiolite said "Recognising the need for change is half the battle"
    A lie is a lie even if everyone believes it. The truth is the truth even if nobody believes it. - David Stevens
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    Thanks Raziell..I can honestly say that that video inspired me more than anything anyone has ever said to me face-to-face. I will overcome my fears and broadcast my dreams and my intellect instead of hiding them behind a veil of safe concealment. I won't worry about whether or not I'm "worthy" of this or that. Or whether random people deem me worthy. All people are worthy of doing anything they enjoy doing. I'll no longer avoid speaking about subjects which interest me despite the fact that many won't listen (and if they won't listen it's probably simply because it involves something unfamiliar to them, so I have no reason to be upset). I'll also learn to listen and respond to what others have to say. I will join the Biology and the German clubs at my school and make friends instead of being a loner. No more ifs and or buts...I'm going to make severe changes because I need to make them.
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    You'll stumble, gottspieler... Just remember to keep standing up and pushing forward. That's life. Kicking yourself while you're down doesn't assist you in standing up any faster.
    I liked the clip from Raziell, too.
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    One more advice is to start lifting weights and eating more healthy food. Maybe take a jog in the mornings 3-4 days a week.

    All the little things, both mental AND physical will make you more confident and give you better self esteem and self respect. After some time youll start truly believe and love yourself.
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    Well..the weightlifting part I already do. I also take fish oil and go for long walks. But I could start jogging again..
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    gottspieler, I was searching the forum for topics about the bp oil spill, to see what folks might think about it. Or, what suggestions they might have to fix it.

    That's how I came across your thread. My question was, what was it exactly you were complaining about? And, do you need any help or assistance indeed, or just like to rant?

    In case you would like to have some advice or something, that could be given by folks who are older than you, like it normally would go like I think, could you please provide some straight samples or matters which you are fighting about?

    I think this would help. Otherwise, no one would be in a position to assist you with anything, anyway.

    Don't know, if you just like to rant (vent ) that's ok with me, but don't expect anyone to be able to help you. However.

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    I see my own anger and sadness as illusions, and as such realise that I'm not actually angry or sad. I'm not sure how healthy this is, though; I suspect I'm approaching a fairly major breakdown in the future.

    The reason I'm saying this, is I would very much like to rant, but ranting would essentially be me pretending to be angry for the sake of showing appropriate anger for my situation - so really I wouldn't be ranting at all.
    "The major difference between a thing that might go wrong and a thing that cannot possibly go wrong is that when a thing that cannot possibly go wrong goes wrong it usually turns out to be impossible to get at or repair." ~ Douglas Adams
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    I also loved that scene in Rocky.

    That is a good video for anyone to look at on a regular basis. I think I will do that.

    If you like biology, perhaps you might like something in health care. A lot of bio majors go that route.
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    Hello.. I've read the rants - and responses - and would like to add my own.

    My rant is a little different. It really is something I'd like to shout to the world because it's not so much personal as it relates to everyone.

    I'm really annoyed - even more than - I'm seriously effed off at how we are lied to every single day and I mean EVERY SINGLE day by the scum who run the country.

    Not just the UK - where I live - but in all countries. Clearly I am more interested in what happens in the UK but as a result... I've got to take notice what happens in the USA.

    My intense hatred for the US administration started during the Bush administration. (Just the administration. Not the people.) It was the first time I started to understand how much we were being lied to.

    The biggest turning point was the invasions of Iraq and Afghanistan.
    Our PM went along with it all... and it was all based on one big fat F*&KING LIE. The whole weapons of mass destruction story. Most of the UK was against the war but we went in anyway with that nutter in the white house.
    And there we are - years later... lies upon lies are still being vomited out and by now... even more people know that the war was based on a lie... but more and more people die.

    And that's just the beginning. Then here there was the expenses scandal... Vile F*&KING politicians claiming for moats around their castles, duck houses, porno films. And many of these disgusting individuals still have their jobs.

    The financial crisis...(sparked by the USA)... there is tons of information about that on the internet.. BUT who to believe?... According to some sources - various and potentially reliable - we are on course for a super economic crash at some point.... maybe over the next couple of years.. maybe in 10 years. Exactly when is uncertain but apparently it's coming. And if the evidence I've seen is accurate.. it makes sense as to why.

    What gets to me is - PEOPLE STILL BELIEVE EVERYTHING THE GOVERNMENT TELLS THEM... when governments are REGULARLY caught lying... People IGNORE what they don't like to hear.
    And it's not just the sheep portion of the population.... but it stretches to extremely intelligent people. e.g. I'm looking into peer reviewing, how it works and how it can be manipulated (For 1 example, search - Jan Hendrik Schon)...because some people will believe a peer reviewed report like a creationist believes the bible.

    And I don't know who or what to believe... All I can say is... I DON'T BELIEVE POLITICIANS or those who run massive corporations... Like that scum Tony Hayward or his ilk.

    And this doesn't barely touches the surface of what I'm trying to say.
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    Oh yea, I totally agree sromag. I hate when people deny the truth because they can't accept reality.
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    Ahh, ok I think I understand by now. Venting in an Internet forum, seemingly, is being a good idea.

    Don't mind.

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    Ganz gut. Du kannst dich hier beklagen. Bitterlich ob du so willst.
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    You're all talking absolute bollocks. Ophiolite talks the most sense, nosy opinionated old bastard.
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