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    Sorry for constantly posting relationship stuffs on this part of the forum, but i mean its general discussion so i hope you guys dont mind too much

    today i asked my girlfriend out, just somewhere nearby to catch a movie tomorrow. She said she wasn't sure, but she would tell me tomorrow. what does it mean? she is my girlfriend, why would she do that, cant she just say yes?



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    1. She is thinking of breaking up with you.
    2. You recently offended/annoyed her and she is making you pay.
    3. She was not prepared to make a decision about tomorrow right now because, simply, she didn't want to.
    4. She wants to go somewhere with you, but not to a movie.
    5. She has other more pressing concerns on her mind at present and you can't seem to recognise these.

    Advice: ask her how she is feeling. Are things going OK with her? What would she like to do. Would she like to set the agenda more often. Talk to her. Don't take her for granted - my guess is that you have been and that is the root of the problem. (Or there is no problem and she just didn't want to make a decision just then.)

    Talk. It's quite an effective communication method, but you also have to do something that is even more effective......Listen.


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    Haha..I can relate buddy. If she isn't talking to you as often for a period of two weeks or longer and if she is vague it's a sign of an imminent breakup. It's happened to me manyyyyyy times. However, if it's an isolated event, no worries. Just talk to her...but only when you feel she wants to talk. If you press her she'll be intimidated and quiet most likely.
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    If you're under the age of 25, scrub her off, and start over. Life's to short for bull sh!t games.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ophiolite
    1. She is thinking of breaking up with you.
    2. You recently offended/annoyed her and she is making you pay.
    3. She was not prepared to make a decision about tomorrow right now because, simply, she didn't want to.
    4. She wants to go somewhere with you, but not to a movie.
    5. She has other more pressing concerns on her mind at present and you can't seem to recognise these.

    Advice: ask her how she is feeling. Are things going OK with her? What would she like to do. Would she like to set the agenda more often. Talk to her. Don't take her for granted - my guess is that you have been and that is the root of the problem. (Or there is no problem and she just didn't want to make a decision just then.)

    Talk. It's quite an effective communication method, but you also have to do something that is even more effective......Listen.
    Well put. Speaking as a happily married man, I think that's the best best advice one can give. It's amazing how most men (including my former self) find women extremely complicated. If more men would actually stop and just be friends and communicate they might learn a thing or two. For every thing you expect from them you should be willing to return. At a young age I really don't think it's possible for the average Joe to really get it. Later on in life some of them will, some of them just won't. And so it is.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ophiolite
    2. You recently offended/annoyed her and she is making you pay.
    I find it endearing when they do that!

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    don't ask if she wants to see a movie tomorrow. Ask if she wants sex right now.
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    The last 3 times you had sex together, can you positively confirm that you DID give her an orgasm?
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    Quote Originally Posted by spuriousmonkey
    don't ask if she wants to see a movie tomorrow. Ask if she wants sex right now.
    I double-dare you.
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