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    what may happen. So many times I felt it was so miserable and pointless.
    Now, tonight I have this gorgeous beauty lying asleep and naked near me. Just looking at her makes me want to live forever. Why she wants to be with me I do not know. I am 60 years old, a scarred up mess really, and she tells me I am who she wants to be with. It will last as long as it does, I hope for at least a few months.
    I really do luck out every now and then. I was so fed up with a lot of things after a recent trip to upstate New York. All sorts of problems I have yet to resolve. They no longer seem of much importance when I look upon her in her naked beauty and am so very glad to be alive, at least for now. This life is a real trip and you never know what may happen. "Whatever" has taken on new meaning for me at least for now. WHATEVER, ...Dr,Syntax ...NEVER GIVE UP ON IT, LIFE. ...Oh yes,I need to add this: we CRIED TOGETHER about anything and evrerything. Something she never stopped doing. I bought her a drink and a gave her a few dollars to play some songs she liked . We talked a bit and both began crying, the songs , she saw me crying and began crying also. That is what did it. Not much was said, We just slow danced together and cried. We knew that it was OK to cry with each other and it meant a lot to both of us, to be able to cry with someone else who knew about crying. We made small talk, but not much, We just wanted to hold each other and cry. For 60 I am a good looking man, but she is about 20 and there were other handsome YOUNG men,and she picked me to be with. It was so incredibly intense for both of us. Few words, deep feelings. I hope it lasts a long time. I do not count on it. But, however long it lasts, will remain within me until I die. ...DS


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    I am happy for you man.

    I wish you well.


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    Quote Originally Posted by rideforever
    I am happy for you man.

    I wish you well.

    REPLY: Tank you my friend. It is amazing to me. I will enjoy it as long as it lasts and what more can you ask for in life. I am totally straight with her and as enthusiatic as she is and all, I do not feel it can last all that long. Like most of us, she has her fair share of pain and needs someone to be with who she knows simply accepts her need to cry and such. I wish I was 40 years younger, but my family does tend to live long lives, imto thier 90s and 100s if not killed by getting shot or stabbed to death which has happened to many of the males. A bunch of drunken heathens to one degree or another. God I love this woman, but feel she will want a younger man sooner or later. I would never try and hold onto someone who finds another.I just feel grateful for her current infatuation with me.
    I never thought something like this could happen for me at my age and was not seeking it. It just happened. Anyway, you take care and make the most of your life. Your Friend, Dr.Syntax
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    Your first post sounded like it came out of a film noir.

    Generally the best things happen unexpectedly. That's what makes them great. Just remember, what goes up must come down.
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    That time of year thou mayst in me behold
    When yellow leaves, or none, or few, do hang
    Upon those boughs which shake against the cold,
    Bare ruin'd choirs, where late the sweet birds sang.
    In me thou seest the twilight of such day
    As after sunset fadeth in the west,
    Which by and by black night doth take away,
    Death's second self, that seals up all in rest.
    In me thou see'st the glowing of such fire
    That on the ashes of his youth doth lie,
    As the death-bed whereon it must expire
    Consumed with that which it was nourish'd by.
    This thou perceivest, which makes thy love more strong,
    To love that well which thou must leave ere long.

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    Well I hope you are right.

    My girlfriend told me yesterday she is unhappy and wants to split up. I fell apart. I don't even know if I want us to be together. And I lost my job in October, which means I will have to leave my flat in January. I'm leaning so much on my best friend that he's wanted out too.

    Life feels full of pain. It just hurts. Pain over more pain. What can I do about it. The pain just overflows. 30 years of abuse and I feel like I just about survived a war - not sure what did survive.

    I haven't turned to any of drugs/alcohol/smoking/suicidal stuff, and I do want to live, but I can't think why. I just have that feeling, which I guess is something.

    I find it very hard to meet people so another loss ... it's pretty heavy. It takes a long time to get to know someone.

    And my mind thinks a lot about very heavy stuff, and I can be hard to be around ... I talk to people about it and they just can't deal with. I can't deal with it but I can't remove my head. It makes many observations about the world, I can't fault it but it is a heavy weight to carry.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rideforever
    Well I hope you are right.

    My girlfriend told me yesterday she is unhappy and wants to split up. I fell apart. I don't even know if I want us to be together. And I lost my job in October, which means I will have to leave my flat in January. I'm leaning so much on my best friend that he's wanted out too.

    Life feels full of pain. It just hurts. Pain over more pain. What can I do about it. The pain just overflows. 30 years of abuse and I feel like I just about survived a war - not sure what did survive.

    I haven't turned to any of drugs/alcohol/smoking/suicidal stuff, and I do want to live, but I can't think why. I just have that feeling, which I guess is something.

    I find it very hard to meet people so another loss ... it's pretty heavy. It takes a long time to get to know someone.

    And my mind thinks a lot about very heavy stuff, and I can be hard to be around ... I talk to people about it and they just can't deal with. I can't deal with it but I can't remove my head. It makes many observations about the world, I can't fault it but it is a heavy weight to carry.

    REPLY: i DON`T KNOW WHAT TO SAY.I was thinking of nothing but killing myself for more than a year. I quit caring or trying with women. Do not give up. Many times in my life I have felt simular feelings as what you are describing. One thing that really does give me some relief is to CRY. JUST LIE IN BED AND CRY about anything and everything that is troubling me so very much. The problems and losses are still there, but I no longer feel as troubled by them.
    Maybe there is some medication out there that can help you. There is PRIMAL THERAPY. You may wish to look into it. It has kept me going. I identify so strongly with how you feel. Is this new to you or have you often felt this way ?
    You need some help with these feelings. Do not let them destroy you. There are therapists out there who can at least help you. You are not alone. A very many people at different points in their lives have had simular feelings and found ways to deal with it. I wish I could do more to help you. Just do not give up. ...Dr.Syntax
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    Quote Originally Posted by dr.syntax
    Quote Originally Posted by rideforever
    Well I hope you are right.

    My girlfriend told me yesterday she is unhappy and wants to split up. I fell apart. I don't even know if I want us to be together. And I lost my job in October, which means I will have to leave my flat in January. I'm leaning so much on my best friend that he's wanted out too.

    Life feels full of pain. It just hurts. Pain over more pain. What can I do about it. The pain just overflows. 30 years of abuse and I feel like I just about survived a war - not sure what did survive.

    I haven't turned to any of drugs/alcohol/smoking/suicidal stuff, and I do want to live, but I can't think why. I just have that feeling, which I guess is something.

    I find it very hard to meet people so another loss ... it's pretty heavy. It takes a long time to get to know someone.

    And my mind thinks a lot about very heavy stuff, and I can be hard to be around ... I talk to people about it and they just can't deal with. I can't deal with it but I can't remove my head. It makes many observations about the world, I can't fault it but it is a heavy weight to carry.

    REPLY: i DON`T KNOW WHAT TO SAY.I was thinking of nothing but killing myself for more than a year. I quit caring or trying with women. I am going out to meet yet another young woman this very morning at ten AM to screw her silly. Life makes no sense to me at all. ...DS
    uh huh.........and this is appropriate to a public forum how?, and we need to know this why???
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paleoichneum
    Quote Originally Posted by dr.syntax
    Quote Originally Posted by rideforever
    Well I hope you are right.

    My girlfriend told me yesterday she is unhappy and wants to split up. I fell apart. I don't even know if I want us to be together. And I lost my job in October, which means I will have to leave my flat in January. I'm leaning so much on my best friend that he's wanted out too.

    Life feels full of pain. It just hurts. Pain over more pain. What can I do about it. The pain just overflows. 30 years of abuse and I feel like I just about survived a war - not sure what did survive.

    I haven't turned to any of drugs/alcohol/smoking/suicidal stuff, and I do want to live, but I can't think why. I just have that feeling, which I guess is something.

    I find it very hard to meet people so another loss ... it's pretty heavy. It takes a long time to get to know someone.

    And my mind thinks a lot about very heavy stuff, and I can be hard to be around ... I talk to people about it and they just can't deal with. I can't deal with it but I can't remove my head. It makes many observations about the world, I can't fault it but it is a heavy weight to carry.

    REPLY: i DON`T KNOW WHAT TO SAY.I was thinking of nothing but killing myself for more than a year. I quit caring or trying with women. I am going out to meet yet another young woman this very morning at ten AM to screw her silly. Life makes no sense to me at all. ...DS
    uh huh.........and this is appropriate to a public forum how?, and we need to know this why???

    REPLY: What do you know about it : severe depression ? You critisize me for what ? Having some good sex always cheers me up. I think a lot of people would agree with me about that. Crying helps also and very much. You can`t think your way out of pain. What advice do you have for him ? You can get lost in that sort of pain and I see nothing wrong going out and doing what you can to have a good time as long as you use some common sense while going about it. I get tired of people critisizing me for offering up suggestions that work for me. Life is full of misery and pain for a very many people. At times going out and having some real fun, SEX, is just what is called for in my opinion. It get`s you out of the misery at least for a while and you feel that there is something worth living for.
    I don`t think I have all the answers, I only know what works for me and many of the men I know also. A very good example of this is what was called R and R during the VIET NAM WAR. What do you think all those men did on R and R ? You get one guess, because if you can`t figure that one out we come from such totally different worlds I have NO IDEA at all as to what goes on in a mind such as yours. There are certain REALITIES about people some apparently find so objectionable they choose to dismiss them and consider them to be forbidden to speak about. Scientifically analyze that one and see what non-sense you can come up with. Don`t get prissy with me, it won`t work. Your opinion of me means less than nothing to me. ...Dr.Syntax
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    Quote Originally Posted by dr.syntax
    Quote Originally Posted by Paleoichneum
    Quote Originally Posted by dr.syntax
    Quote Originally Posted by rideforever
    Well I hope you are right.

    My girlfriend told me yesterday she is unhappy and wants to split up. I fell apart. I don't even know if I want us to be together. And I lost my job in October, which means I will have to leave my flat in January. I'm leaning so much on my best friend that he's wanted out too.

    Life feels full of pain. It just hurts. Pain over more pain. What can I do about it. The pain just overflows. 30 years of abuse and I feel like I just about survived a war - not sure what did survive.

    I haven't turned to any of drugs/alcohol/smoking/suicidal stuff, and I do want to live, but I can't think why. I just have that feeling, which I guess is something.

    I find it very hard to meet people so another loss ... it's pretty heavy. It takes a long time to get to know someone.

    And my mind thinks a lot about very heavy stuff, and I can be hard to be around ... I talk to people about it and they just can't deal with. I can't deal with it but I can't remove my head. It makes many observations about the world, I can't fault it but it is a heavy weight to carry.

    REPLY: i DON`T KNOW WHAT TO SAY.I was thinking of nothing but killing myself for more than a year. I quit caring or trying with women. I am going out to meet yet another young woman this very morning at ten AM to screw her silly. Life makes no sense to me at all. ...DS
    uh huh.........and this is appropriate to a public forum how?, and we need to know this why???

    REPLY: What do you know about it : severe depression ? You critisize me for what ? Having some good sex always cheers me up. I think a lot of people would agree with me about that. Crying helps also and very much. You can`t think your way out of pain. What advice do you have for him ? You can get lost in that sort of pain and I see nothing wrong going out and doing what you can to have a good time as long as you use some common sense while going about it. I get tired of people critisizing me for offering up suggestions that work for me. Life is full of misery and pain for a very many people. At times going out and having some real fun, SEX, is just what is called for in my opinion. It get`s you out of the misery at least for a while and you feel that there is something worth living for.
    I don`t think I have all the answers, I only know what works for me and many of the men I know also. A very good example of this is what was called R and R during the VIET NAM WAR. What do you think all those men did on R and R ? You get one guess, because if you can`t figure that one out we come from such totally different worlds I have NO IDEA at all as to what goes on in a mind such as yours. There are certain REALITIES about people some apparently find so objectionable they choose to dismiss them and consider them to be forbidden to speak about. Scientifically analyze that one and see what non-sense you can come up with. Don`t get prissy with me, it won`t work. Your opinion of me means less than nothing to me. ...Dr.Syntax
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    Two books: The Hagakure and Fight Club

    These should give you some answers. Believe it or not some people spend their entire lives alone. Love (in the lust sense), or lack of it, is not worth dying for. After long enough, you simply go numb.

    It's funny how people with lovers can act so proud about their social skills and then when their lover is gone they realize that's all they really knew.

    The first thing you will have to learn is that shit happens, and if you aren't capable of change you're in for a bumpy ride.

    Here's a quote from each:

    Don't be afraid. Although I fell, it was nothing. I am now rather at ease. Before falling I kept thinking "What will I do if I fall?" and there was no end to my anxiety. But now I've settled down. If the rest of you want to be at ease, fall quickly!
    From the Hagakure: Book of the Samurai

    If you woke up at a different time, in a different place, could you wake up as a different person?
    -Narrator [Fight Club]
    Do not try and bend the spoon. That's impossible. Instead... only realize the truth. There is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself. -Spoon Boy
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    Quote Originally Posted by DaBOB
    Two books: The Hagakure and Fight Club

    These should give you some answers. Believe it or not some people spend their entire lives alone. Love (in the lust sense), or lack of it, is not worth dying for. After long enough, you simply go numb.

    It's funny how people with lovers can act so proud about their social skills and then when their lover is gone they realize that's all they really knew.

    The first thing you will have to learn is that shit happens, and if you aren't capable of change you're in for a bumpy ride.

    Here's a quote from each:

    Don't be afraid. Although I fell, it was nothing. I am now rather at ease. Before falling I kept thinking "What will I do if I fall?" and there was no end to my anxiety. But now I've settled down. If the rest of you want to be at ease, fall quickly!
    From the Hagakure: Book of the Samurai

    If you woke up at a different time, in a different place, could you wake up as a different person?
    -Narrator [Fight Club]

    REPLY: Who amongst us does NOT KNOW that shit happens ?
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    Ah, but there is a difference between knowing that shit happens, and being prepared to play with it when it does. A skilled general is good at making plans, and better at changing them to fit the circumstances.
    Do not try and bend the spoon. That's impossible. Instead... only realize the truth. There is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself. -Spoon Boy
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    Ah, but there is a difference between knowing that shit happens, and being prepared to play with it when it does. A skilled general is good at making plans, and better at changing them to fit the circumstances.
    Right, the best generals in the world are the best at shit shoveling. No wonder after war we all end up at the bottom.
    "If you wish to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe". - Carl Sagan
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bad Wolf
    Ah, but there is a difference between knowing that shit happens, and being prepared to play with it when it does. A skilled general is good at making plans, and better at changing them to fit the circumstances.
    Right, the best generals in the world are the best at shit shoveling. No wonder after war we all end up at the bottom.
    After war?

    "The bottom" is relative. One person's bottom is another's pleasure. :wink:
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    Thank god Einstein never looked in a mirror then, his hair will provide a conclusive evaluation on that one. 8)
    "If you wish to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe". - Carl Sagan
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