On the other hand, we are hardwired to rebel against our hardwiring. This id-curdling force enters with the "terrible twos", when children reject precisely what they most want, e.g. given the
option of a cookie, they must decide "No! I don't wanna cookie! No no no!" The inner rebellion is pre-programmed, involuntary, and so torturous that children actually writhe on the floor in conflict with their selves alone. Then something similar happens to teens too.
Well, maybe not technically involuntary. The tantrums are I think the voluntary urge in raw, aimless form, attacking our neat "genotype + environment" recipe. It
is a shitload of free will, or "voluntary behaviour", and it's the way we master... shit.
The second re-wiring is more ingenious. Basically, where we see
this, we want
that. One feels compelled to go against upbringing & rage against environment. But that's so late in the game most of us just tilt the machine for a while, then get back into the program.
When teen rebellion sticks for life we carry a sort of Othello game played over generations. If you're opposed to your parents, and
they're opposed to their parents, and so on. Swap swap swap. So we inherit this board and get to play a few tokens in life. It feels like freedom, until we pan out and see the pattern. "Just the opposite" isn't real freedom.