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    I'd like to hear everyone's analytical opinions on a person like this: They're very quiet in public, except around immediate family (mother, father, siblings only), they often find that they can't say things that are on their mind, even when they really want to or need to. So, overall, they're very introverted. However, all the time, they sort of daydream about conversations that they'd like to have with people. Also, if they end up in a one-on-one conversation with someone they have no problem chatting, and rather enjoy it. These two sides are so conflicting. It's like wanting something really badly, and yet finding yourself not able to will yourself to go get it. Please leave serious comments. Thank you.


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    They are shy.


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    Social anxiety? They make pills for that now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amaya
    Social anxiety? They make pills for that now.
    What if they're generally completely relaxed in public? Could it still be social anxiety, just not to a great degree?
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    Hmm. Comfortable in public, and comfortable speaking to close friends and family and/or one on one, but NOT comfortable speaking in public.

    Public speaking is considered by many people to be their number one fear. Even if you're not standing up and giving a speech to a full house, having a decent conversation with people you don't know very well, if at all, is nerve wracking for many people.
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    ok, I have something new to add to the characteristics of this person. It may be totally unrelated. They often can't say people's names, because it makes them very uncomfortable to do so. That probably sounds strange, but that's all there is to it. They can't just say (insert name here), they have to find a way to convey who they mean without saying their name directly. The only peoples' names that make them uncomfortable to say are generally people outside of the family. But even within the family, names of siblings (whose first name you're more likely to use than your mother's or father's) are difficult to say. Comments?
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    In my unprofessional opinion, that sounds like a personal psychological issue that would need to be addressed through counseling of some kind. It is human nature to name things, so that through language assignation we can better think about and analyze the world around us. The next step is communicating these names with others, so that the thinking and analyzing can occur between people as well as within them. An inability to speak names is probably a problem unique to an individual and his/her experiences.
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    These two sides are so conflicting. It's like wanting something really badly, and yet finding yourself not able to will yourself to go get it. Please leave serious comments. Thank you.
    A very common conflict: You want most what you can't get or can't do.

    The fact that one-to-one conversations are easier than interacting with a group suggests that the attention (not necessarily the mere presence) of a larger number of people feels intimidating to this person. This does not contradict the relative comfort felt in an anonymous crowd ("completely relaxed in public"). To speak means inevitably to attract attention and that may be overwhelming when it comes from more than one person. On a one-to-one basis, the attention is mutual, but as soon as a group of people is involved, the person in the center of attention is watched by many eyes. There are people who thrive in such situations, and other people who can't deal with it. The reaction usually correlates with the level of self-confidence.

    Speaking out somebody's name is another way of getting (unwanted)attention, even if that attention is only imagined (when that person is not present). I imagine that this condition is more severe when talking to A about B, and B is actually present in the same room. I don't see this as totally unrelated to the above.
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