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  1. #1 No childhood best friends? 
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    Children shouldn't have best friends, private school head argues - Telegraph

    Had a major LULZ at this earlier today. The PC society knows no bounds, seemingly...

    I'd have to say:

    - This "headteacher" is citing bollocks of the highest order. Favouritism is part of life. Not everybody will like all others, and all humans whether adult or child possess the capability to exclude.

    - Selecting with whom to associate is not just based on "bad" reasons. If a child is a bully, or a general bad influence, this is good enough reason not to associate with that person. Besides, adults select others based on prejudice all the time.

    My psychologist friend actually sent me this today, and I immediately this doesn't lend to mentally healthy adults, or at least adults who know/can handle the real world. The Royal College of Psychiatrists should really be condemning this as irresponsible.

    And yes, I know somebody will say "but I thought you said you didn't like psychology". I don't. I just don't like the parts made by liberal Californians who say I'm "bad" to be an atheist. I never did anything to them, so I detest them for saying as such.


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    Quote Originally Posted by sarnamluvu View Post
    I just don't like the parts made by liberal Californians who say I'm "bad" to be an atheist.
    Why do you even think those people have absolutely anything whatsoever to do with Psychology?

    Shouldn't you be hating Californians instead of psychologists?


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    That teacher is just abrogating the school's responsibility to manage behaviour within its own premises. Otherwise known as ordinary, everyday manners.

    It's just plain rude to whisper in your friend's ear in front of other people. It's also rude to shun people you don't want in your little clique from school activities. And it's so obviously rude to insult or tease or belittle - otherwise known as bullying - people you don't want to include in your social group that a teacher who doesn't know any of the people in the conversation should be able to step in without hesitation. Any adult whether they are or aren't a teacher or parent should be able to tell children that they're being rude and their behaviour is unacceptable and it should Stop! Right now!

    I do think that schools should not encourage the idea that having a BFF is desirable or preferable, but if children are friends and that friendship causes no problems with others then I don't see the problem. Even if they're the living-in-each-other's-pockets type of friends. Many of these intense friendships only last a short while and if it suits the friends (and hurts no-one else) then it's just another phase in childhood.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Daecon View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by sarnamluvu View Post
    I just don't like the parts made by liberal Californians who say I'm "bad" to be an atheist.
    Why do you even think those people have absolutely anything whatsoever to do with Psychology?

    Shouldn't you be hating Californians instead of psychologists?
    I don't see where it has anything to do with California, the West Coast or even sun dried raisins.
    The story is in a UK newspaper and is about some school principle's ideas at some dayschool in Battersea, South-West London.
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    Some shy children become even more introverted in groups, and a best friend or two is a more comfortable way to establish closeness, share thoughts, compare experiences, and well, have fun. It also seems like an age related activity. Best Friendships seem more common in the primary years, but then usually expand to a group in jr high, high school.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dan hunter View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by Daecon View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by sarnamluvu View Post
    I just don't like the parts made by liberal Californians who say I'm "bad" to be an atheist.
    Why do you even think those people have absolutely anything whatsoever to do with Psychology?

    Shouldn't you be hating Californians instead of psychologists?
    I don't see where it has anything to do with California, the West Coast or even sun dried raisins.
    The story is in a UK newspaper and is about some school principle's ideas at some dayschool in Battersea, South-West London.
    We need to begin with the premise that sarnamluvu is fairly well screwed up mentally. It is unclear if this is a consequence of youth, a desire to troll, lack of intellectuall rigour, or a screwed up childhood. If it transpires that the latter is the case I shall feel guilty for at least four years, or until my death, whichever occurs first.

    He routinely confuses talking nonsense (in this case thinking liberal Californians say it's bad to be an atheist) with being contradictory. There is some argument for contradiction being a useful mechanism of dialogue and social interaction. No case can be made for equating it with foolish imaginings.

    His repetitive claim that other members are threatened by him and that he cares not a whit what others think, is belied by his persistence in posting.

    So, sarnamluvu, what is your game? Seriously?
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    Quote Originally Posted by John Galt View Post
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    I just don't like the parts made by liberal Californians who say I'm "bad" to be an atheist.
    Why do you even think those people have absolutely anything whatsoever to do with Psychology?

    Shouldn't you be hating Californians instead of psychologists?
    I don't see where it has anything to do with California, the West Coast or even sun dried raisins.
    The story is in a UK newspaper and is about some school principle's ideas at some dayschool in Battersea, South-West London.
    We need to begin with the premise that sarnamluvu is fairly well screwed up mentally. It is unclear if this is a consequence of youth, a desire to troll, lack of intellectuall rigour, or a screwed up childhood. If it transpires that the latter is the case I shall feel guilty for at least four years, or until my death, whichever occurs first.

    He routinely confuses talking nonsense (in this case thinking liberal Californians say it's bad to be an atheist) with being contradictory. There is some argument for contradiction being a useful mechanism of dialogue and social interaction. No case can be made for equating it with foolish imaginings.

    His repetitive claim that other members are threatened by him and that he cares not a whit what others think, is belied by his persistence in posting.

    So, sarnamluvu, what is your game? Seriously?
    His game appears to be charades, as it involves quite a bit of hand waving.
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    Quote Originally Posted by shlunka View Post
    His game appears to be charades, as it involves quite a bit of hand waving.
    Well, he won't be waving his hands here for the next 24 hours. I've banned him for insulting a member on another thread.
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    Quote Originally Posted by John Galt View Post
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    His game appears to be charades, as it involves quite a bit of hand waving.
    Well, he won't be waving his hands here for the next 24 hours. I've banned him for insulting a member on another thread.
    Charades can become a rather aggressive activity.
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    lol. I don't mean to be offensive. I just see many others say contrary statements, both here and in real life, so I follow suit.
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    You're not offensive just incomprehensible, clueless and annoying.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sarnamluvu View Post
    . . . liberal Californians who say I'm "bad" . . .
    A theme in all your posts is you thinking that someone or some group thinks you are "bad". I'm beginning to think that you are bad.
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    Quote Originally Posted by adelady View Post
    That teacher is just abrogating the school's responsibility to manage behaviour within its own premises. Otherwise known as ordinary, everyday manners.

    It's just plain rude to whisper in your friend's ear in front of other people. It's also rude to shun people you don't want in your little clique from school activities. And it's so obviously rude to insult or tease or belittle - otherwise known as bullying - people you don't want to include in your social group that a teacher who doesn't know any of the people in the conversation should be able to step in without hesitation. Any adult whether they are or aren't a teacher or parent should be able to tell children that they're being rude and their behaviour is unacceptable and it should Stop! Right now!

    I do think that schools should not encourage the idea that having a BFF is desirable or preferable, but if children are friends and that friendship causes no problems with others then I don't see the problem. Even if they're the living-in-each-other's-pockets type of friends. Many of these intense friendships only last a short while and if it suits the friends (and hurts no-one else) then it's just another phase in childhood.
    Interesting. Funnily enough I thought at one stage of sending my son to another of the Thomas's group of schools, but did not like the pushy head of that particular school.

    I read the article initially with some incredulity, until I realised he was mainly talking about the close and exclusive friendships some girls tend to form at a certain age. Then I began to see what he was getting at. My impression is that boys' friendships are less exclusive and less intense, and thus would not tend to present the same emotional risks.

    No doubt, as this is reported in a newspaper, the head's remarks will have been simplified and exaggerated to make a "story" out of them. I expect what he really said, in context, would have been perfectly reasonable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PumaMan View Post
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    . . . liberal Californians who say I'm "bad" . . .
    A theme in all your posts is you thinking that someo
    ne or some group thinks you are "bad". I'm beginning to think that you are bad.
    There are people who do worse things than I do.

    But then it's the medical profession who say I am not "good" for being a non-theist. Do they assert this to all other non-theists, or say their beliefs are inappropriate? lol..
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    but they don't say that do they? It's just you getting confused between reality and what goes on in your head (again).
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    It's what they say/insinuate.
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    Forgive me for not believing you but you've shown a remarkable ability to misinterpret the posts of others on this forum to the point where it is obvious you are trolling or have severe cognitive difficulties. The medic probably said something like "get out in the fresh air and do some exercise and quit posting bullshit on the internet" and you misunderstood it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sarnamluvu View Post
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    . . . liberal Californians who say I'm "bad" . . .
    A theme in all your posts is you thinking that someone or some group thinks you are "bad". I'm beginning to think that you are bad.
    There are people who do worse things than I do. But then it's the medical profession who say I am not "good" for being a non-theist. Do they assert this to all other non-theists, or say their beliefs are inappropriate? lol..
    Are you sure it wasn't your psychologist saying you were asocial instead of atheist?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Daecon View Post
    Are you sure it wasn't your psychologist saying you were asocial instead of atheist?
    I think his psychologist jumped up during one of their sessions, pointed towards the door, and yelled "Get the f*** out of here!"
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