Thread: Negative and Positive thoughts

We all know that we have memories about things we have felt and lived trough and you have some kinda feeling about all those things. Sometimes you have positive and sometimes its negative, how you feel about it. But do you think it's possible to change your feelings about things with your willpower? All reactions you get seem to be connected to your past, just look some things like your tv, newspaper or whatever you own or have in your livingroom and your brains are getting some kind of reaction about those things. Do you think it's possible to train your reactions so you'd get a feelings you was thinking you'd get?

Originally Posted by deep'n'dark

We all know that we have memories about things we have felt and lived trough and you have some kinda feeling about all those things. Sometimes you have positive and sometimes its negative, how you feel about it. But do you think it's possible to change your feelings about things with your willpower?

If you want to, and with enough therapy, yes. Welcome to psychology.

think negative you will be negative feeling. think positive you will be positive feeling happy. you choose your thoughts. good luck.

Originally Posted by deep'n'dark

Do you think it's possible to train your reactions so you'd get a feelings you was thinking you'd get?

I'm not sure what it is that your saying here but if you are trying to ask whether or not you can transform negative memories or reactions into positive memories or reactions, then I suppose it's possible. Though in many cases, I can't figure why you would want to.

Originally Posted by deep'n'dark

We all know that we have memories about things we have felt and lived trough and you have some kinda feeling about all those things. Sometimes you have positive and sometimes its negative, how you feel about it. But do you think it's possible to change your feelings about things with your willpower? All reactions you get seem to be connected to your past, just look some things like your tv, newspaper or whatever you own or have in your livingroom and your brains are getting some kind of reaction about those things. Do you think it's possible to train your reactions so you'd get a feelings you was thinking you'd get?

When i was a kid if i did anything wrong, my dad would clip me round the head (nothing over the top u understand). Still, at the age of 25 whenever he raises his hand, and i only do this with him, i flinch, and as much as i have tried not to do this, i cant help it.

So do i think people can change their feeling or reactions towards certain things, no not just by willpower, but maybe though a professional.

Martial arts does come to mind though.

That's odd, My dad used to do that, then in my teens when he did it in front of a girlfriend of mine, I er clipped him back - his response - "At last one of my sons has balls!". It's a natural reaction to flinch when anything approaches your head at 'high speed' I think they call it a 'kneejerk' reaction.

Originally Posted by Megabrain

That's odd, My dad used to do that, then in my teens when he did it in front of a girlfriend of mine, I er clipped him back - his response - "At last one of my sons has balls!". It's a natural reaction to flinch when anything approaches your head at 'high speed' I think they call it a 'kneejerk' reaction.

But that the thing, it only happens with my dad. I moved out when i was 16 and dont see him that much but when i do see him it still happens. There is a connection somewhere in my head that says -dad- -hand- -duck-.
Do u think it would help if i went round his and smacked him one then ?

Yes, I do. Curiously although I ducked many times (sometimes even if he just moved his hand, say to scratch an ear) I never ducked after I 'smacked' him - It was as if I saw myself as submiisive before yet equal or dominant after. Maybe, you have never made the leap. CAUTION: he must know it was you, so don't lay him out cold from behind!.

Originally Posted by Megabrain

Yes, I do. Curiously although I ducked many times (sometimes even if he just moved his hand, say to scratch an ear) I never ducked after I 'smacked' him - It was as if I saw myself as submiisive before yet equal or dominant after. Maybe, you have never made the leap. CAUTION: he must know it was you, so don't lay him out cold from behind!.

Oh dear too late!

Thinking about it though u could be right.

We all know that we have memories about things we have felt and lived trough and you have some kinda feeling about all those things

My dad

Sometimes you have positive and sometimes its negative

Negative

But do you think it's possible to change your feelings about things with your willpower? All reactions you get seem to be connected to your past

Yep, but not through willpower(one word?)

It's all about connections / associations in the brain. Your memories "dad", "raised hand" and "pain" apparently are strongly connected to eachother, so when you see one or two of the above you'll think about the others. You could try attaching different, less negative memories to these things. For example by doing fun things with your dad (if he's still alive), or by conditioning yourself to associate "raised hand" with "joy" (simple example: let someone raise his/her hand each time he/she says something friendly or gives you food). But conditioning is a lot of work, so you'll have to ask yourself whether it's worth the trouble.

Nope, not worth it, thanks anyway.

Has anybody here ever "conditioned" themselves to certain events though willpower alone ?

I like to be positive under any dam circumstances bcaz negative makes me weak.

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