Is it just me or has anyone else noticed that it seems to be the trend to bad mouth significant others among friends online or in person. This is a big reason why I cannot tolerate socializing. Constantly hearing people talk about how stupid their spouse is in one way or another as if it is cute or makes them seem cooler to their friends. I made the mistake of reactivating my facebook account today to look up an old address and ended up browsing "friends" pages. Every single one of them that was in a relationship talked about their partner as if they were complete idiots. Which left me thinking, 1. Why are they with them if they think so little of them, and 2. Why does the partner stay with someone who bad mouths them and disrespects them everywhere they go?
It makes me wonder how anyone can be shocked at the high divorce rates in this country. If two people can't even grasp the concept of mutual respect how do they expect to have a warm loving marriage.
I only talk about ex's poorly in public.
But too often I see people say ,"My hubby is a moron but I love him" or "My wifey is only good at sex but that will work for me". WTF! PEOPLE! But then these same people get upset if you say anything remotely bad about their significant other. Hell they are just joining in bashing them. And why do we call people friends who go out of their way to make you see the tiny imperfections in your spouse. I am not talking about friends who urge you to leave someone who is abusive. I am talking about friends who make you nag your husband because he is wearing out of season sandals or some stupid crap like that. Or those who give you crap because your gf/wife has a lisp.
I call these people nags. They aren't happy with what they have and they don't want you to be happy with what you have either.
I don't know if I posted this in the right forum. maybe it should have been in general discussion.
Mods feel free to move it if you like.
So is there any psychological explanation for why people insult those they love in public? It used to be unheard of. But now it seems to be the IN thing to do.
When I see people do this, I tend to think really low of the person who is doing it and assume they don't deserve the partner they have and would find it hilarious if they found their asses out on the street, traded in for someone who actually respects their partner. Especially when the person doing it is being financially supported by the one they are insulting.