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    Quote Originally Posted by HomoUniversalis
    Dead on.

    I don't remember those pressures as much because anti-consumerism was always my rebellion of choice.
    Hmm.. I had a debate with a sociologist about this. The two extremes amuse me. In teen years, people are (in general :P) so focused on belonging to a group they will change all manners of patterns of behaviour, and than, they start to define themselves, they 'rebel' in some instances, whether this takes the shape of 'goth', 'anti-consumerist', or simply college-goer, as a separation from the highschool-goer (no (generalising here, bear with me) college-goer will see a highschool-goer as 'less' than him).

    But in the end, it's all hopeless. We seek comrades in these interests. We seek out other goths, we seek out other anti-consumerists, we seek out people so we again feel like we are part of a group. Human behaviour is... fascinating .

    Mr U
    I am confused by this post, how it replies to my post. I was merely metioning that I escaped one type of social pressure exerted on teen-agers. I did not worry about having the "right" clothes or music or whatever; and, no, I didn't worry about having ones that were "wrong enough", either. I found a path through the raging consumerism of my society.

    Interestingly, I did not end up bonding with a group of like-minded outcasts in high-school, as would be expected. Maybe there weren't any handy. Those with whom I associated were often stylish, popular, and, in their hearts, conventional. I think we really liked the contrast between us. Maybe because there were no opportunities for competition?

    But I went to a somewhat unusual high-school.


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    I was not as much making a comment towards your lifestyle, but more picking it out as an example to comment on 'teenagers' and the way the usually develop themselves. There are always exceptions, and you could be one of them .

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    Oh. Ok.

    I think they get it right, they just torture themselves along the way.

    We have to learn how to recognized and acceed to social norms, and we have to be willing to reject them when it is necessary.

    Adolescence is a time of extremes, and adolescents are not very good at recognizing when rebellion is necessary. I think the hardest lesson to learn in life is, "Pick your battles".
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