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    I wonder why this is so difficult.
    I mean , if one is thinking quietly to oneself and comes to the conclusion that a particular aspect to one's character that is undesirable ,it seems very easy at the time (without compulsion) to put that behind oneself (to kind of kill off that part of you if you will).

    However I cannot recall a single instance where , in my case that has ever been successful.

    Are we somehow programmed to prevent instantaneous internal change of that kind happening - or am I just an incorrigible backward looking stick in the mud!


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    A phrase, just human, means that we don't expect everything from eachother, nor from ourselves. If we, conciously think, we have cooped with it before, our subconcious will drive us away from the goal we intended. Because of the memories, feelings, or experiences we have had with the thing we were trying to stop doing.

    Smoking is a good example. Drinking as well. Excessive gaming.

    So, we fail at stopping, because we know we are able to fail, and it's okay, because we are just human.

    Only if you start disliking the action you once liked, you will be able to stop.


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    Are we somehow programmed to prevent instantaneous internal change of that kind happening
    Well we have no other instantaneous behavioural features, so I can't see why a decision to change should be any different.

    All our behaviours are learned, rehearsed and reinforced by repetition. Just like all other learning, the first requirement is 'unlearning' our previous knowledge, skill or habit. When we move into higher secondary or tertiary education we often have to unlearn simplistic versions of theories that were taught at earlier years before we can get on top of the more complex material. Top level sports people often take a few months off to relearn or replace certain habits or practices they think can be improved. Musicians sometimes do the same.

    If we want to make a behavioural change, the first thing to do is to discard the notion that merely deciding to change will be enough to make it happen. We have to work at it.
    "Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen." Winston Churchill
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    Thanks for taking time to answer what I am sure is a question that must have been asked a million times.

    I suppose I am just a bit surprised at just how lightweight these resulutions of mine actually are .

    That is not to say that a mental note can't work quite easily.
    For example waking up at a particular time in the morning is quite easy if you just repeat it to yourself 3 or 4 times befire you go to sleep!
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