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  1. #1 Is there any way to help depression and shyness? 
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    everyone gets those days where its just like "well to behonest why am i still alive?" i want to know is there any way that we can reduce those days or even prevent them all together, now some people will say they have never had one of thos days but in reality sometime they can get it the worst they dont enjoy sharing their thoughts with other people making it alll build up and it just hurts them allot more. does any one know how we can stop/reduce this?.


    as for shyness somepeople we feel more comfortable around or more uneasy, i myself am very shy, im not shy around my best mate but we have known eachother for 13 years and been to hell and back together, but the only time im not shy is when he is around, but recently he found out that we will be living further appart and i will become so isolated again that this problem has arised does anyone know how to help?



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    Is your shyness rooted in fear? It might be if you're experiencing a lot of anxiety over this. In fact it might even be that you fear the anxiety more than the isolation that comes with the absence of your friend. There are people just like you and there are people who are far worse. IOW don't think you're the first to ever feel this way. Many who suffer similar affliction have overcome it and some have even taken on the role of counsellor to people just like yourself. Seek out some of them.


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    There is a heap of stuff on the internet to help overcome shyness.
    eg. How to Network: 12 Tips for Shy People CIO.com

    And that was my first hit.
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    are you shy or just introverted?

    Extraversion and introversion - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    Introversion is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life".[4] Introverts are people whose energy tends to expand through reflection and dwindle during interaction.[5] Introverts tend to be more reserved and less outspoken in groups. They often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, using computers, hiking and fishing. The archetypal artist, writer, sculptor, engineer, composer, and inventor are all highly introverted. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though he or she may enjoy interactions with close friends. Trust is usually an issue of significance: a virtue of utmost importance to an introvert choosing a worthy companion. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate, especially observed in developing children and adolescents.[6] Introverts are easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings and engagement. They are more analytical before speaking.[7]
    Introversion is not the same as being shy or being a social outcast. Introverts prefer solitary activities over social ones, whereas shy people (who may be extraverts at heart) avoid social encounters out of fear,[8] and the social outcast has little choice in the matter of his or her solitude.
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    I am also pretty shy. If my wife doesn't come with me, you would almost have to threaten deadly force to get me to go to a party.

    I think something that helps shyness is to get involved in an activity you like. That is one of the most common ways to meet people.

    If you have any interest in martial arts, you could check that out. A lot of shy people build confidence with martial arts.
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    I recently overcame a tremendous fear of public speaking. The following does not apply to introversion.

    The fear is rooted in a bi-directional relationship between a hyperactive "right" amygdala and the cognitions that follow. A correlation has been found between the presence of 1-2 short alleles on a chromosome and a structurally larger amygdala. This leads to greater stimulation of the amygdala, which is generally accepted as the 'fear' and emotion center of the brain. Therefore, many of your fearful thoughts are not consciously initiated; rather, they are passed through the filter of this abnormal amygdala, leading to greater social phobia and anxiety.

    There is also a huge amount of literature indicating the importance of 5-HT on 'well-being'. The relationship is likely interconnected. I can't say anything further without leaving accepted notions.

    So, I now focus on this when I begin to have fears and, I've realized, 99.9% of them are founded on nothing. They seem to appear out of thin air and I'm positive this was due to an extremely low-threshold for right-brain amygdala activation.

    Solutions:

    -Try Meditating or doing controlled-breathing excercises. Once you're breathing is down, count the number of negative cognitions that surface. You may feel improvements overnight but, continue meditating for a while. My purpose is to foster greater left-frontal lobe activation (an observable effect of meditating). Also, keep your fingers and hands separated; your somatosensory cortex is disproportionally dedicated to your digits.

    This may seem like mumbo-jumbo. You do not need to meditate, that's just what I did. For those of you who like Nonlinear Dynamical Systems, picture this increased amygdala activity as an attractor state. It is necessary to move to a new attractor state. I'm not going to proof-read this.

    P.S. To get in the meditation mood, do not consider extraneous noises distractions. Imagine harmony as chaos and unpredictable flux. Every shrill, unexpected noise fits nicely in this picture.
    P.P.S I bet some of you are left-handed (greater right-brain activation).
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    I am 39 years old and my personallity is exactly the same as yours.

    Why are you still alive ? So I am not alone with all these social idiots, its nice to know there are a (few) others like me around.


    To help you can, eat good, exercise a bit, take vitamins, dont smoke too much pot, dont drink to much alcohol, take siestas, and get enough sleep.

    To prevent, do things that make you happy, get a hobby, get in touch with nature , go fishing, plant some vegi. seeds that grow good in your area in your back yard watch them grow and eat them, buy a 80cc bicycle engine on ebay and drive around, I dont think you can have guns like Americans, so get a bow and arrow, get a throwing knife and practice in your back yard. Join a karate or mma group, it may seem scary, but they use gloves, and they will ((not)) actually hurt you.


    To prevent all together, Maybe get a girlfriend, or if your gay, get a boyfriend. Join a online dating service.

    Are you living in the middle of no were with not many people living around you ??


    I am shy just like you, and when Im alone in public. I dont talk to anyone, but I can still go places and do things alone, and always did. Just because your friend leaves, you can still go places.

    I am sure there is a good chance when your friend leaves, someone , some thing , or some people will take his place in your life.

    And dont kill yourself, (( for some deep reason )) I take great satisfaction from knowing there are other people like me out there, and if you kill yourself you will no longer be there. Just know there are others like us out there, feeling simular things, and maybe in some unexplainable way we need each other, like I said I take great satisfaction knowing your out there.


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