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  1. #1 Anger Management 
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    Hey

    what is the simplest way you follow to control anger ?

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    Thinking about the negative consequences of losing my temper!


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    Understand that I can choose to be angry or I can choose not to be angry. If I allow myself to become angry as a reaction to something said or done by another that person has control over me. By understanding that I do not need to become angry this potential for control is negated.

    At times, after rationally considering the pros and cons I may choose to become angry, but I am then in control of the situation, not the individual or group whose actions have prompted my choice. At other times, in a business situation where a degree of anger would be expected, I have faked anger as a means of getting the point across.
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    Its OK to be angry, its a natural emotion. The problem is how do we express it; with rage and violence or taking a second to choose our behavior, maybe saying something like' That really pisses me off' instead of more extreme choices.

    Another stategey is to slow down and reconsider the siuation and how our thinking is causing our feelings and resulting behavior. If I think 'he's a jerk' instead of 'he's not getting away with that' maybe I won't over react. Also many times anger is a cover up emotion for feelings of hurt or sadness.

    The bottom line is to change the behavior by changing our thinking. And its OK to be angry, its not OK to use violence. (Self defense is usually not an angry outburst but a survival / protection response).
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