Notices
Results 1 to 8 of 8

Thread: I roll my tongue when I'm mad

  1. #1 I roll my tongue when I'm mad 
    Forum Freshman
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    20
    I have done this for as long as I can remember. When I get mad I roll my tongue and press it against my teeth. I have no idea why I do it, but its annoying as it is is a red flag to anybody who knows me.

    So what could be causing me to do that?


    Reply With Quote  
     

  2.  
     

  3. #2  
    Veracity Vigilante inow's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Austin, TX
    Posts
    3,499
    Your amygdala.


    Reply With Quote  
     

  4. #3  
    Forum Freshman
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    20
    Thank you for giving me the basics. Could you elaborate? Ora are you saying there is something wrong with my brain?
    Reply With Quote  
     

  5. #4  
    Veracity Vigilante inow's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Austin, TX
    Posts
    3,499
    There's too little information to tell, really. You have a physical response when something emotional happens. That's rather normal. If you think it's abnormal or you are finding that it interferes with your ability to live a successful life, then you should do something about it. Sometimes things as simple as getting more exercise or writing down your thoughts can help. Again though... This is an internet forum. Kinda hard to give you an accurate diagnosis, especially since we're rather limited on information and left with little more than that which you decided to share.

    Sorry if my response was perceived as curt. Your amygdala is the emotional center of your brain, and your tongue thing is an emotional response. My response was accurate, but I concede not very helpful.

    No... Your brain is probably fine. How you deal with stress and frustration in your life? That may require some extra attention and potentially an alternative coping mechanism.
    Reply With Quote  
     

  6. #5  
    Forum Freshman
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    20
    I ignore stress, always have and always will. this bothers me because I try really hard to keep absolute control of my body language, I keep my face straight, my voice level, my eyes focused, my hands steady and and breathing normal at all times.

    But this one thing won't stop. As soon as I take my mind off it, its rolled back again.
    Reply With Quote  
     

  7. #6  
    Veracity Vigilante inow's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Austin, TX
    Posts
    3,499
    A while back, a friend of mine gave me an analogy. I'll share it with you here now.

    Our emotions are like balloons filled with air. We float in pools of water with those balloons. Let's say your anger is that one balloon you try to control... or your stress... The stress you ignore is represented by this balloon... let's say it's red... in this big swimming pool filled with water.

    You're floating in the pool, and you feel stress... you feel that balloon trying to poke out of the water... so you try to push that balloon filled with air below the water's surface... you try to push down your stress or anger. You push and push and push it farther and farther down into the water.

    Except... The harder you push, the more violently that balloon tries to force its way back to the surface. No matter how hard you try to control it, you ultimately can't, and it always escapes your grasp and rushes for the surface out of your control.

    Your emotions are the same. The more you ignore them, the more you lose control of them, and the more they control you... Just like that balloon. The harder you try pushing it below the water, the more violently and out of control it will surge to the surface.


    You're not being authentic or true to yourself. If you feel an emotion, then let yourself experience it... Don't hide it. Pretending it's not there will not suddenly make it go away. It just makes it stronger... more intense. If you feel something, then acknowledge that you feel it so you can more quickly move past it. Learn how to cope in the moment... Otherwise you'll spend your life out of control fighting all of the previous emotions you've tried to push down.


    But... whatever. I'm just some random guy on the internet.
    Reply With Quote  
     

  8. #7  
    Forum Freshman
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    20
    That is just another version of the steam analogy, whee if you don't express yourself emotions will just build up until they burst.

    But humans don't work like that, quite the opposite actually. The longer one practices self-control the easier it gets, until the ability to express is lost. That is my goal.
    Reply With Quote  
     

  9. #8  
    Veracity Vigilante inow's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    Location
    Austin, TX
    Posts
    3,499
    Sorry. You're wrong. Self-control has nothing to with ignoring emotion and everything to do with handling it as it happens and moving on. The control is in your response to the emotion, not in your ability to pretend it's not there.
    Reply With Quote  
     

Bookmarks
Bookmarks
Posting Permissions
  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •