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Thread: What side of the bed do you sleep on as a couple?

  1. #1 What side of the bed do you sleep on as a couple? 
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    Here’s a topic that occurred to me while I was at a social gathering with other couples the other night. It’s nothing special, but when I brought the subject up, it made many of the couples say this was an interesting occurrence.

    The question primarily directed to the preferential sleeping habits of heterosexual couples.

    The question deals with which side of the bed you sleep on as a couple, but for the sake of this experiment, I’ll need to stake out a few reference points to help gain a correct answer.

    For this example, let’s say that you’ve just crawled into bed to go to sleep, and you are lying on your back looking up at the ceiling. Which side of the bed does your wife/girlfriend always sleep on while laying next to you? Of course, if you’re the female, just answer which side that you are always laying next to him.

    An example might be, if I’m lying on my back, my wife is laying next to my left side, and if she was answering, she would state that she’s lying on the left side next to me.

    For some reason, the greater majority of the people have stated their wife/girlfriend is on their left side, but there were a few that said their wife/girlfriend was on the right.

    Anyway, I was just curious as to what would turn up here as results. If this is showing up to be as lopped sided as I think it will be, what is your opinion as to why this may occur?


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    This is interesting. These polls are not exactly hard science, but they are at the very least amusing, and can throw up some intersting observations for debate or further (proper) research.
    I encourage everone to respond.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Ophiolite
    This is interesting. These polls are not exactly hard science, but they are at the very least amusing, and can throw up some intersting observations for debate or further (proper) research.
    I encourage everone to respond.
    There must be a logical reason the results seem to be lop sided towards the female being on the left and the male being on the right.

    It would be interesting to see if anything has ever been investigated on this, and what results were revealed.

    Hmmm,I wonder if any of the mattress companies or sleep institutes ever noticed this arrangement.
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    I'd be curious to see the correlation between this question, and which side of the bed is along the wall (if any). It's been my experience at least that it isn't the side of the bed that is preferred, but whether or not it's the side along the wall.
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    Good point Neutrino. Of course, some of us pretentious middle class bastards have a large enough bedroom to have space down both sides. :wink: You might then ask, how does the bed sit in relation to the door (or the en suite bath, or the jacuzi, etc).
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    In my case, my wife and I have always stayed with her on the left hand side, and it never matter what house we ever lived in, or what motel that we’ve stayed in.

    Over the years, sometimes I had the wall and sometimes she had the wall. When the kids were born, she did request that we rearranged the bedroom so she could get up during the night and attend to them. During that period, I had the wall.

    When I first met my wife, she was still living at her parent’s home, and she had a large bed in which she slept on the right side. I had just left home and was living by myself. I had a large size bed too in which I slept on the right side. In all honestly, I might have been the person that pushed for the right side early in our relationship.

    When I originally asked this question (outside of this forum), I really expected a 50/50 response, sort of like flipping a coin, but I was very surprised to hear that a good portion of men slept on the right side. Then I started thinking my relatives and her relatives. Almost every couple had the female on the left and the male on the right.
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    I had hoped that I would've seen higher numbers in this poll, but hopefully more will added over time.

    I am happy that current votes seem to roughly show (extremely roughly) greater than 50% in one spouse on one side than the other, for some unknown reason. :-D
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    To clarify Left/Right.....As we lay there, She is at my right hand. Why? I guess this I learned growing up. My Dad slept with my Mother at His right.
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    I'm female and sleep on my partners left. He is right handed. I think he feels better if he has his right hand free. Maybe you should ask if the people in your poll are right or left handed. Maybe it has something to do with sexual dominance. Or maybe its a instinctual protection of the nest thing- his right hand is free so he can react faster to preditors. Anyway- seems like he has a strong drive to be on the right. Even when we go to a hotel he has to be on the right.

    (What's funny is-- I would rather sleep on the right hand side myself. I have tried to persuade my partner to sleep on the left, once in a while, but-- he acts like that would just turn his whole universe upside down— he would never be able to sleep. So, since he feels so strongly about it I just let him sleep on the right.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by jasper7777
    I'm female and sleep on my partners left. He is right handed. I think he feels better if he has his right hand free. Maybe you should ask if the people in your poll are right or left handed. Maybe it has something to do with sexual dominance. Or maybe its a instinctual protection of the nest thing- his right hand is free so he can react faster to preditors. Anyway- seems like he has a strong drive to be on the right. Even when we go to a hotel he has to be on the right.

    (What's funny is-- I would rather sleep on the right hand side myself. I have tried to persuade my partner to sleep on the left, once in a while, but-- he acts like that would just turn his whole universe upside down— he would never be able to sleep. So, since he feels so strongly about it I just let him sleep on the right.)
    The dominate spouse theory s the only thing that I could think of that makes the most sense at this time too.
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    Interesting poll but I haven't answered it. I'm currently on the right although my preference is for the left and I've been nagging my wife to change back to how it had always been before we moved into our current house. And oddly I always believed my preference for the left was so when going the grope so to speak I would be using my left hand(I'm right handed) but I find the right side uncomfortable and I've rarely had a full nights sleep since changing to the right.
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    I always sleep closest to the door. Even in hotels I do this. Since I've been married my wife appears to always sleep furthest from the door. The reasoning I'm sure has something to do with protecting her, or in the case of being alone providing a quick reaction and or escape to any danger.

    This just so turns out to be that she sleeps on the left side. That however is not the consideration as much as placement of the entrance to the room. It just so happens to work out that way. Still habit will force that same correlation in the event the bed is positioned differently. This of course makes me sleep less sound. Same side of bed, wrong position in the room.
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    Well, I'm not in a long-term relationship right now. But I've noticed that the majority of times I have shared a bed with a girl they have been on my left side, but sometimes on the right.

    My results may be marred by alcohol however. As 'sleep where you fall' is generally the preferred instance in those cases.

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    i dont sleep with a she..so

    usually i take the side nearer to the exit but normaly i just crash or pass out ...
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    It’s interesting to see that a small group of people say they always want to be close to the door even when the room is re-arranged, or regardless of where they stay overnight. These people constantly flip-flop sides of the bed which is difficult to capture as an answer except to say something like “Constantly switch sides”.

    Although the answer sampling has been small here, the answers here and at other locations still seem to indicate a weighted answer of women on the left and men on the right for some reason. I have even noticed this bedroom arrangement on television as well.

    It’s also hard to say if it’s a dominance sort of thing towards one sex, since I heard women say they chose/insisted on the left, and I’ve heard men say they chose/insisted on the right (and vice-versa for both).
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    It seems to me that this is pretty much even. Right now there is a difference of two votes. I am not sure what could cause it other than it may be more of a security issue. I know that most men sleep closer to the door subconsciencly(sp?), and that is probably why I sleep in the right, with her on my left. But it could have to do with some kind of power issue, like men like to sleep with the woman on our left side because it makes us feel stronger. It could also be that being right handed we want to try and keep our dominate hand free, which is the same reason that most right handed people carry babies on thier left arm.
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    Did you know women are more likely to run out of the house without clothes then men are? I have to wonder why then we (men) like to sleep near the door. Perhaps it gives us time to put some shorts on
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    I actually voted for "she sleeps on the right". I would usually have slept on the right, but I have had a medical issue which has left my left side ever so slightly more vulnerable than my right side. If she were to lean on my left side for too long, while laying, it would hurt but my right side is ok for that. For that reason, I sleep on the left.
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    It's been a while since I last checked it to see the results. It's interesting to see the numbers are close.

    Although it was an unscientific poll, it would have been interesting how many people gave an answer, but were not married and not in a long term relationship with a member of the opposite sex.

    I would wonder if it also takes a bit for a male and female to settle into a permanent left/right sleeping arrangement.

    I wonder how frequent the couple switches sides over the course of years.

    I also wonder if the region of this country, or any answers from another country affects the sleeping arrangements.

    I still ask this question from time to time to people that I know that I haven't asked it yet, and I still find that on average that two-thirds of the couples say the female lays on the left side.

    Hmmm.
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    Looking from the foot of the bed to the head, the lady sleeps on the right that's what I voted for. That's the side where the power point is so she gets woken by the alarm. If I voted the wrong way then you'll have to adjust the results.
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    Either side, doesn't really matter. You should have included "either side" in the votes.
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    She's on the right. But I'm also left handed, so that might throw things a bit out of whack.
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    Whether one sleeps on the right or left has nothing to do with being ready to defend the nest because the rest of the room and exit can be on either side of a bed! The next survey should be to find out which side of a bed is more commonly facing the rest of the room and exit!

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