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  1. #1 Are You Beautiful? 
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    In our modern and fast-paced world, society is constantly reminded of the word beauty. Models everywhere flaunt their special attributes, and then people use those models as guidelines for what everyone should aspire to look like. These guidelines usually lower our self-esteem, and we end up feeling disappointed and/or inferior. But I believe that people are so caught up in considering people's faces as one, that they don't notice the finer things that make a person unique. When I say this unique, I mean physicaly, becuase we all already know that each one of us have unique personalities.

    Someone might have lustrous hair, someone else has incredible blue eyes. Another person might have a graceful neck, while yet another may have thick eyelashes......and then, someone may have a golden voice, while someone else has an intuitive mind. One person might have amazing athleticism, while someone else may have the tenderest of hearts.

    So after you've read all this, I ask you, what do you think about yourself? Have you yet recognized your own perfect qualities? Or do you continue to compare yourself to others? Are you satisfied with what you have and who you are, or do you constantly tell yourself that you are an inferior?

    I want you to think a moment and see yourself from an outsider's point of view. And then I want you to look inside your soul and find the bits and pieces that make up YOU.

    And now, I ask you...............


    ...........are you beautiful?


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    Quote Originally Posted by tritai
    In our modern and fast-paced world, society is constantly reminded of the word beauty. Models everywhere flaunt their special attributes, and then people use those models as guidelines for what everyone should aspire to look like.
    Isn't that something that the media do to advertise? These models are beautiful in these costumes, with their desginer makeup etc. If you wear the same then you will be beautiful. I'm not sure of the correct term for it, but it is just an advertising way of getting people to buy their products.

    Take a few beauty mottos for instance:

    "Maybe she's born with it, maybe its Maybeline".
    That basically is saying. "Hm, maybe she is natrually beuatiful? No, it's our products that are making her beautiful so buy them".

    Or how about:

    "Take care of yourself, GARNIER".

    To keep yourself healthy and attractive (which the media say is attractive, or is naturally) then you need GARNIER, to do that.

    These guidelines usually lower our self-esteem, and we end up feeling disappointed and/or inferior.
    Now thats only because some of us either:

    A. Don't look any good naturally and the media makes us feel bad because we might not look like their models.

    Or B. We cannot afford those products regularly.

    But I believe that people are so caught up in considering people's faces as one, that they don't notice the finer things that make a person unique. When I say this unique, I mean physicaly, becuase we all already know that each one of us have unique personalities.
    Yes I agree. There are many features that catch our eye that we wouldn't nomrally think we'd find attractive. One example I can think of is a girl at my place of work. She's the ordinary girl next door. She is not what the media would class as beautiful, she wouldn't be looked at twice in a way. But there is something after a while that catches. Those are her eyes and her neck. They stand out physically. And yes she does have a wonderful personality as well. So the media cannot tell you everything.

    So after you've read all this, I ask you, what do you think about yourself?
    I try not to think to much of myself as I used to because that can create a superiorty complex, and that is dangerous. At least when it comes to talking with people anyway. I think I'm a good natured guy, who does his best to help people with good intent at heart. Of course I have flaws, many of them. We wouldn't be human if we didn't.

    Have you yet recognized your own perfect qualities?
    I dont' think of myself as being perfect in any way, and I like being flawed. Making mistakes can be a huge educational moment in your life. I would say however that I have intelligence potential, just lack the needs to progress that at the moment.

    Or do you continue to compare yourself to others? Are you satisfied with what you have and who you are, or do you constantly tell yourself that you are an inferior?
    Back when I was a teenager I used to compare myself to everything, either negatively or positively. So I could try and fit myself in with everyone else. I tried to do that for a long time, trying to conform like most teenagers do. But then I realised that I was different someway, I didn't know why I just was. The thing that segregated me was my compassion and well being for others, when all my friends wanted to make fun or hurt people, which teenagers can do. I suppose my morals grew a little eariler than everyone else's.

    I want you to think a moment and see yourself from an outsider's point of view. And then I want you to look inside your soul and find the bits and pieces that make up YOU.
    From an outsiders view, I'd say I look physically attractive. Keep trim. Maintain good posture as much as possible, with the tendency to sometimes slouch. I send out mixed messages when it comes to confidence. But if you were to speak to me I'd be very polite and mannered, a good light sense of humour and a dash of charm. Depending of course on the day it is and how I am feeling, that could all change, or at least downgrade slightly.

    And now, I ask you...............


    ...........are you beautiful?
    James Blunt says I am. So I must be. 8)


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    But if you were to speak to me I'd be very polite and mannered, a good light sense of humour and a dash of charm.
    Thank you for your ecellent response. I'm quite sure you are exactly what you say. :-D
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    @tritai:
    Beauty comes mainly from the inside. Sexual attraction is something physical, but beauty comes from the inside. It's like an inner radiation that somebody has to make him beautiful. Or there are certain features of a person who make him/her beautiful, like an amazing singing voice or a keen mind....as you said, these special treats or features a person may have.

    Beauty is, in my opinion, a matter of interest and pleasure to the faculties of perception; that is, hearing, seeing, feeling, maybe even tasting and so on. So finding something or somebody "beautiful" is a psychological phenomenon that it's interesting or charming to us, for some reason.
    Beauty can only arise with the sublimation of our sexual drive into something which we would call "culture" or "morality", or some seemingly sublime feature of a being, signifying that the sexual drive is expressed, though not directly, but sublimated.

    To say somebody is beautiful is, in my eyes, not the same as to say she's "hot" or "sexually appealing".
    I am.
    You can't deny it.
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    It's important to realize that pictures in advertisements and even living models themselves are often highly modified. And I don't just mean plastic surgery, though that happens as well. Models at fashion shows are strategically airbrushed to highlight some features and de-emphasize others, visually changing the way their face looks. Photographs, of course, can be modified every which way, and they are. Even more airbrushing, making the neck look longer, making the eyes look bigger, slimming down the chin and adding a bit to the cheeks, take some off the waist, add some to the boobs and butt, lengthen the legs, make the hips and thighs thinner, etc etc. These beauty "standards" are often anatomically impossible without extensive surgery or other modifications.

    Also, people mutilating themselves in the name of beauty is not a recent phenomenon either. Brass neck rings in several Asian and African cultures, foot binding in China, corseting in Europe. There was even a time when men would corset themselves to achieve what was considered to be the ideal masculine body shape. The desire to be attractive is deeply ingrained in human nature and is not something you can blame modern society for.
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    To say somebody is beautiful is, in my eyes, not the same as to say she's "hot" or "sexually appealing"
    Same goes for me. "Hot" and "Sexy" are, in my opinion, two very careless and overused words. Beautiful, on the other hand, seems synonymous with purity and simplicity to me. You night not agree, but I believe that the more glamour you project, your entire personality becomes faker and faker.

    Also, people mutilating themselves in the name of beauty is not a recent phenomenon either. Brass neck rings in several Asian and African cultures, foot binding in China, corseting in Europe. There was even a time when men would corset themselves to achieve what was considered to be the ideal masculine body shape. The desire to be attractive is deeply ingrained in human nature and is not something you can blame modern society for.
    Oh, but modern society is actually quite a bit to blame because of how modern society is backing up all these ridiculous customs from long ago. (Sorry if I offended anyone with the "ridiculous customs" part) Perhaps people arent walking around bound by corsets and hopping around on crippled feet, but its the same principle isnt it? Beauty can be so....surreal, its like people will strive to any lengths, to the greatest forms of masochism, to simply do right in modern society's eyes. Our society constantly bombards us with posters and billboards and ads, and although many of us realize that the photos could have been photoshopped, some of us also feel that there are actually people out there who really look that good. It's a common illusion, but thats what makes the advertising companies tick, and thats why I'm so shamelessly villifying modern society.

    Smoke and mirrors, people. Smoke and mirrors.


    *If I have offended anyone by casting aspersions on another culture, I apologize. I hope you will forgive me in the names of passion and mercy. :?
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    Beauty comes from inside

    But only the ugly say that
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    Quote Originally Posted by Absum!
    Beauty comes from inside

    But only the ugly say that
    Without the ugly we never would ask ourselves that. But really what is ugliness? Not everyone is ugly to everyone, and who are we to say someone is ugly? I say 'not attractive to me'. And that is if we assume that we are talking about ugly in terms of sexuality.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 425 Chaotic Requisition
    Quote Originally Posted by Absum!
    Beauty comes from inside

    But only the ugly say that
    Without the ugly we never would ask ourselves that. But really what is ugliness? Not everyone is ugly to everyone, and who are we to say someone is ugly? I say 'not attractive to me'. And that is if we assume that we are talking about ugly in terms of sexuality.
    Oh come on Chaotic you're so diplomatic lets have a bit of honesty here

    Some people are just plain mingers

    I know they cant help it bless em and nor can a hippopotamus help having a fat arse

    I guess it all boils down to peacocks loving peacocks and hippos loving hippos

    There's someone out there for everyone
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    I'm fascinated by the subtle qualities of human anatomy - which I guess must be genetic undercurrents - so I do find most people beautiful, if fascination equals admiration. Cartoon presentations, like heavily made up face, don't interest me.

    Some people are quite strikingly exotic looking, others less so. Which is more beautiful? Personally I find really distinctive faces that embody some genetic extreme, kinda hard to appreciate beyond the obvious. Of course a more familiar observer would see more than I do. On the other hand, there are very blended faces that just seem like, blah. Kinda the generic human.

    My son is mixed. I find his genetic peers look washed out. Dull. But he'll see otherwise. He'll find the subtle differences intriguing.
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