Thread: asocial and misanthropy

2 of the words that describe me - some ind it wierd, while others find it 'impossible' but I prefer not to have a social life.

At social events, I am either standing there bored, or when I do make an attempt to socialise - I get the 'I'll be right back' lie - so, nowadays I don't bother too much.

For me to relax is writing curriculum, doing my Masters study, listening and writing music, watching movies, travelling to some wierd places (as you can imagine I do not like tourist areas either).

But, it irks me when people insist that I 'need' a social life and try to force one upon me -this is where the misanthropic side comes in - 2 things I really hate - being lectured and people telling me what I need.

Originally Posted by southern_firestorm

....... when I do make an attempt to socialise - I get the 'I'll be right back' lie - so, nowadays I don't bother too much.

Do i sense resentment and disappointment in this 'I'll be right back' lie'?

Originally Posted by southern_firestorm

But, it irks me when people insist that I 'need' a social life and try to force one upon me -this is where the misanthropic side comes in - 2 things I really hate - being lectured and people telling me what I need.

Ahh stuff 'em.

People always think they know best about what other people should be doing instead of just focusing on their own lives.

And humans have a tendency to base assumptions and expectations about other peoples behaviour on their own particular behaviour.

It makes them feel all safe and secure if others are doing what they are doing because the more people who are doing what they are doing makes them feel smug they they are doing the 'right' thing.

People say it's 'unhealthy' to be anti-social and be on their own. Unhealthy to who?
It's unhealthy to never want to be on your own also, and i know plenty of people like that, who are afraid of their own company (and even some their own existence!)

Some say there's a balance, and in-between way to these extremes.

But I say

Bollocks to all that.

Do it your way.

There's only one person who knows what's right for you.

Originally Posted by southern_firestorm

2 of the words that describe me - some find it wierd, while others find it 'impossible' but I prefer not to have a social life.

Yet two things call this into question:
1. You have chosen to engage in exchanges on a forum. This is a form of social interaction.
2. On another thread you sought sympathy for bad personal news you had chosen to share with everyone. This is a major form of social interaction.

Have I misunderstood what you mean by 'social life'?

Misanthropes express a general dislike for humanity on the whole, they generally have normal relationships with specific individuals. Misanthropy may be motivated by feelings of isolation or social alienation, or simply contempt for the prevailing characteristics of humanity.
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Yeah I've been thinking of changing my name to Miss Anthropy

Originally Posted by southern_firestorm

2 things I really hate - being lectured and people telling me what I need.

When I was in high school, I took an extra course in computers which was in another school. I used a bicycle to get there on time.
A side effect of this was that I carried my books in a backpack like seven-year-olds do, while the standard for my teenage peers was a rectangular bag with a single shoulder strap. That thing got in my way when cycling, so I opted for the kid backpack.
During a break (in my regular school), one of my classmates picked up my backpack, gave me a look of contempt and blame, and said

Leszek, you must not forget that you live in a society!

If he was being social, well then, yes, I am a misanthrope.