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  1. #1 I need some advice. 
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    Now, I have heard some things about people who get ridiculed for liking something everyone else dislikes. Those people get made fun of, bullied and worse.

    I have a friend who likes this show on the ABC Channel that everyone does not like. I do not wish to explain what show it is she likes; but for that, and several other reasons, she keeps getting ridiculed by others at school. So, I am one of her only friends.

    It seems like she has grown to like that show to a point that because of her neglect and isolation from having friends, that show and its content is the only thing she can relate to or be happy to watch. It's like the show is the only thing she has in her world.

    Please tell me; if people at a young age tend to spend most of their time with something fictional of any media, and they have no friends, except one, to
    stick up for them and be nice and respectful to them; is there something about this neglect from society that makes that person attached to things that are not real, but fictional?


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    Best I can say, SciKing, is that people in their teens can become hugely attached to very specific ideas that begin to dominate their lives: for example a number of teens I've known went through a phase of extreme religiosity.

    The good news is that in most cases, after a few years, it wears off, leaving behind few if any scars, and most likely just some interesting anecdotes.

    I can feel your concern for your friend coming through in your post, but there may be no way to 'solve' her addiction to this show. Let it run and be a good friend by being her connection to the rest of the world. That might be the best you can do.

    No doubt others here will have possibly better advice for you...


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    Quote Originally Posted by sunshinewarrior
    Best I can say, SciKing, is that people in their teens can become hugely attached to very specific ideas that begin to dominate their lives: for example a number of teens I've known went through a phase of extreme religiosity.

    The good news is that in most cases, after a few years, it wears off, leaving behind few if any scars, and most likely just some interesting anecdotes.

    I can feel your concern for your friend coming through in your post, but there may be no way to 'solve' her addiction to this show. Let it run and be a good friend by being her connection to the rest of the world. That might be the best you can do.

    No doubt others here will have possibly better advice for you...
    I can show my full trust in your advice. Nothing lasts forever.

    Thank you.
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    I doubt that her addiction to the show is the cause of her isolation; more likely her isolation is the cause of her addiction to the show. The creation and maintenance of social bonds takes time and effort, and this is easier for some people than it is for others. Many teenagers go through socially awkward periods, where they are very unsure and nervous in social situations. I know I did.

    At a time like this, living vicarious relationships through a TV show is a lot easier - you don't have to do anything, you don't have to risk anything, and through empathy with the characters you can still half-way experience the enjoyable emotions of friendship.

    Most people will grow out of this stage. I'm much more socially able than I used to be in high school, and like sunshinewarrior said, I have few scars to show from that time.

    I don't think it would hurt to try and help her be more social, and to show that you're there supporting her through an experience that is probably very uncomfortable for her - but if she's very resistant, don't push her too hard. Some people simply prefer to live their lives with just a few close friends, and that may be the type of person she is.
    Man can will nothing unless he has first understood that he must count on no one but himself; that he is alone, abandoned on earth in the midst of his infinite responsibilities, without help, with no other aim than the one he sets himself, with no other destiny than the one he forges for himself on this earth.
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    I'm The Doctor, what else can I say :P. Don't let it get that far with your friend.
    "If you wish to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe". - Carl Sagan
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