
Originally Posted by
marnixR

Originally Posted by
astromark
A little abrupt for the mod team.. and upset them at your peril.. and this is what happens when you ruffle feathers. It's a shame but he knew what would happen.. and it did. The reward for rudeness is to be banned
imo that's not why he was banned - it's because he thoroughly upset a number of members in a few recent altercations and reduced them to tears, and then fail to acknowledge that he'd overstepped the mark or offer any form of apology
remember, the golden rule in any forum is "don't go out of your way to insult, don't go out of your way to feel insulted" - NeverFly failed, and often badly, on both counts
also, claiming that others did the same and got away with it because of favouritism or because they were a mod is no excuse
That's a two way street, you may say he went out of his way to offend. but others went out of their way to be offended. Really, breaking down into tears because someone said something you didn't like on the internet? Where is that thick skin you guys always tell others to grow? Should that not going out of their way to be offended not also apply to the ones breaking down into tears?
I remember once, Kalster told me that being in a bad situation, emotionally and medically at the time(was adjusting to new antiseizure medication and recovering from a grand mal), is not a free pass to abuse people. And I agree with him completely on that. I even asked him to suspend my account for 30 days because my behavior, even at home was erratic and unpredictable, seemingly on autopilot for a while. But he didn't and I was allowed to get away with it without any official warning. There was discussion but only because I personally brought it up in a thread. But before I brought up the thread apologizing for my behavior, i was an outright Bitch to someone. Maybe because it was towards someone that others were getting tired of that I got away with it, or maybe it was because I am a female and it seems to me the females are coddled on here as if we are simply too inept to be emotionally stable.
Others are doing it, No excuse? Sure, so why are the others excused for it? Why are they not being reprimanded for it? I don't think it's all the mods, but hey, I can relate, Who can stand to hear the nagging and whining of a few that want to hold the others under their thumb.
Why don't you start holding the "ladies" of this forum to the same standards you hold the men to. Women CAN control their emotions. Scheherazade is a proverbial rock that any of us could learn from. Wegs is a softer personality but still very controlled most of the time. I won't comment on my ability to control myself because my ability is ignored. I am accused of being emotional and saying things I didn't say, simply because NF said it and I am his wife, so heaven forbid I be treated like an independent woman. So much for the feminist movement.
And how about mods actually read the threads before they take any kind of action. One mod admitted in a pm to me that my posts in a thread had not actually been read by said mod, and that they had only skimmed over the thread briefly and decided to just back up the other mod who, in a conflict of interest do to their own participation in the thread, decided that both NF and myself were guilty of trouble making, simply because there was a disagreement and both of us were participating in the thread.
Both mods, when I privately confronted them on it, agreed that I was not involved after reading my posts and removed my name from the chastisement, but I am left wondering, how often do they just "instinctively" issue warnings without actually reading the posts. And why is it that mods issue moderator actions in threads they are personally, and sometimes emotionally, involved in. That is a huge conflict of interests and strains the objectivity of the moderator who chooses to do so.
I don't think any mods intentionally or maliciously create havoc in the forum, but little things like this do make it difficult for someone like me, one who does not generally get into flame wars by my own doing. I tend to try to mediate them and get them to relax but my efforts, my words are ignored and instead of reading my posts, every angry word exchanged in the thread between other people is attributed to me. Some of these flare ups have been so insane it seems the mods cannot keep track of who said what. I have been chewed out and accused of saying things that other female members actually said, with no retraction or apology from the mods that did it when I pointed it out to them. And of course, when it was pointed out, they didn't chew out the other lady. It was ok for her to say it but not me.
So maybe there is no favoritism. Just a strong negative bias, which in my case was earned simply by being married to NF.