| Have you ever noticed that you only look at one of the two eyes you are holding eye contact with? |
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| GUY |
 Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 2:18 pm Post subject: Eye contact |
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| Eye contact is a powerful non verbal way for humans and animals to communicate. It has an array of meanings in the animal kingdom. The eyes have always intrigued me and I often hold steady eye contact when engaged with a person. I feel the eyes tell their own story, but it is not this that has me sharing with the universe my own thoughts. I have noticed that when you are engaged in eye contact with a person you are actually looking into only one of their two eyes, the right eye or the left eye. I guess; tell me if you have notice this before, have just realized this, or maybe you are an individual that knows why this occurs. Hopefully we see eyes to eye! |
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| Pong |
| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 3:11 pm Post subject: |
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It depends on the other person. For example Natives in my area (generally) prefer to drop what they're doing, turn for straight face-to-face engagement but avoid direct eye contact, which is felt to be hostile. Then some other people do prolonged eye contact but only askew e.g. while facing elsewhere, often at another subject, as though the eye contact is really about that third subject.
With me personally eye contact is glancey so not really fixed on one eye or the other. Among family there's a bit of ping-pong between the eyes, yes. I think we need an objective observer to track the pattern. |
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| serpicojr |
| Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 10:09 am Post subject: |
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| Why do you only look at one eye? Because your eyes can only focus at one point. If you tried to look at both eyes, which you can probably do with enough effort, your focus will be before or beyond the other person. You can always look right between the eyes if you don't like asymmetry or pingponging between the two, but this may feel more impersonal to you. |
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| DivideByZero |
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I cannot look at a person's eyes while talking. I always have to look away.  |
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| Hanuka |
| Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 2:10 pm Post subject: |
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Aye, same here. I find that looking into eyes be too intense for me, I'm trying to
improve this leatly, have slight success but still not the desired outcome... 
I suppouse that mostly shy people have this problem... :/
p.s. but when I look at the eyes tho, it resulting in look at one eye(usually the left
eye of my "opponent")...
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| Pong |
| Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 2:28 pm Post subject: |
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| DivideByZero wrote: |
| I cannot look at a person's eyes while talking. I always have to look away. |
Don't worry about it, it's cultural. Eyes are just sensory organs. Why should people lock organs when they communicate? I don't go feeling people's faces while talking to them.
Reminds me of how Korean women hold hands when walking together.
There's something innately aggressive about watching the eyes though. There are these monkeys in Japan you can go amongst. But the keepers give this dire warning: Don't look into their eyes! If you do the monkey absolutely spazzes out and some visitors have their faces scratched and bitten for this indiscretion. |
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| DivideByZero |
| Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 2:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Pong wrote: |
| DivideByZero wrote: |
| I cannot look at a person's eyes while talking. I always have to look away. |
Don't worry about it, it's cultural. Eyes are just sensory organs. Why should people lock organs when they communicate? I don't go feeling people's faces while talking to them.
Reminds me of how Korean women hold hands when walking together.
There's something innately aggressive about watching the eyes though. There are these monkeys in Japan you can go amongst. But the keepers give this dire warning: Don't look into their eyes! If you do the monkey absolutely spazzes out and some visitors have their faces scratched and bitten for this indiscretion. |
woah thats neat! If you think about it now, it would be really hard not to look at the monkey's eyes after reading the sign. I'd probably make a dummy with eyes and keep staring at it. harrr! |
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| GUY |
| Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 8:37 pm Post subject: |
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[quote]There's something innately aggressive about watching the eyes though.quote]
I agree, if the eye contact is meant for this, but this is not always the case. When you are listening to someone intently, such as a serious matter, to show you are giving your full attention you might sustain eye contact. When flirting or looking at a loved one you might hold eye contact. When you first meet someone, especially in a work environment, you might hold eye contact while exchanging names. There are a lot of times you might hold eye contact and I think your eyes or another’s eyes will most often convey what they mean too. |
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| Zitterbewegung |
| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 6:59 am Post subject: |
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This is why policmen are tought to only look in one eye of the person they speak to and stick to it as switching from one eye to the other makes them look insecure.
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| Posted: Wed Jul 16, 2008 5:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Zitterbewegung wrote: |
| This is why policmen are tought to only look in one eye of the person they speak to and stick to it as switching from one eye to the other makes them look insecure. |
I agree that by switching between the eyes can be concieved as insecure, even if only insecure about you're understanding of the information you are being given or percieving in that given situation.
I find that when I am engadged in conversation that interests me I focus on one eye. It is not neccesarily right or left, but the most visable or clearest eye! (It is basically the easiest one to look at and focus on)
There is a lot more to the way that I look at people's eyes, that right now, I lack the eliquence to explain fully (from my point of view, anyway).
I will say this though...When engadged in a non-aggressive conversation/interaction I tend to look at the eye furthest away from my sight. ?
When engedged in an aggressive (ie. Debatable conversation that I feel I am being ignored in or confrontational conversation/interaction) I tend to focus on the eye closest to my sight. ?
I know there is a lot to be said about this I feel, which I will leave up to you guys!
I hope this has had some useful contribution!? 
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Something else that comes to mind, is when I was being reprimanded as a youngster by my parents. 
As most of you will know, you fell that you are right and are not immediatley capable of recognising or accepting that there might be a different possibility!
While being reprimanded and thinking of my own thoughts, not knowing whether I am right or not, I found myself staring between the eyes! (Lack of confidence)
Yet when I believed in what I was thinking and trying to convey, I found that I could look dead in the eye, almost as if trying to make them see my views!(Complete confidence!) 
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| delsin2 |
| Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 11:22 am Post subject: |
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If i know the person well, i can look at his/her eyes while talking if the person is not known to me then i can't talk like this.
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| MoonWolf |
| Posted: Thu Jul 24, 2008 6:21 am Post subject: |
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I agree with most of the posts, especially Guy, and I don't think it's possible for me to look in both eyes of another person at the same time.
I usually find myself glancing in the eyes then away, and doing it again every now and then to show I'm still attentive.
It's annoying when somebody doesn't look at you when you're talking to them, even if it's not direct eye contact. You feel like you need to repeat what you've said because of the impression that they weren't listening the first time.
What about the times when your eyes lock together with those of a complete stranger, drawn like magnets, and neither of you seems able to tear your vision away - you have to really concentrate your mind on doing it. Those seconds seem like a very long time. There's no other apparent attraction between you and no words are exchanged, though sometimes a smile of acknowledgement. Perhaps it's a subconscious recognition of some strong link, but what could it be and where from?
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| Pong |
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| MoonWolf wrote: |
| I don't think it's possible for me to look in both eyes of another person at the same time. |
The lady at my bakery has these remarkably wide-set eyes, plus I think she must be slightly wall-eyed because it sure feels like she looks into both. Butcher shop next door, the gal is practically cycloptian and it seems she's staring at a dust mote six inches in front of my face. |
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| revathy |
| Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 9:08 pm Post subject: |
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eye contact is the one which help us to increase our verbal communication.
the person who has eye contact has confident ,bold enough to face any critical situation.eye cantact is very important while presentation.
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